WOW!!! I hope someone comes to their senses & puts a stop to this brutality!!! I now see why some many people home school their kids, it is not safe in the public schools! I am so glad mine are out, but I have grandkids, & a baby great-grandaughter that could be at risk. LORD, help ALL our kids!!!!! Betty418@aol.com
My son also went through this kind of treatment all through school...You see he was born with a hare lip and cleft palate and to top it off he was also classified as hyperactive...The kids knew they could tease him and get a reaction out of him...In elementary school he wanted to take karate,but because of his lack of self restraint I was afraid,so I signed him up for judo,this of course did not satisfy him..Constant picking on him,when he graduated and went the Community College in our area he signed himself up for Karate...One day a couple of the bullies from high school saw him walking on the sidewalk and started cursing him and flashing obscene gestures...Feeling more confident he challenged them both and the cowards backed down,I guess they could see the confidence in his eyes....He is now almost 40 years old,married,a computer programer and has his Black Belt in Karate...Karate gave him the confidence to challenge the bullies so today he doesn't have to fight...I wish I had listened to him instead of trying to over protect him from injury....I too fought with the School District and I always came away frustrated...They need to be held accountable for the actions of the bullies and harrassers of other students,only then will things change...I also think they need to start earlier in school to teach the children conflict resolution,and understand why they tease and bully. It reflects more on them than on the one being teased,fear that some one different could be their brother or sister,or themselves so to allay the fear they have to strike out because it makes them feel important and immmune to it....Wrong.....I pray for all of the children being teased and hope that somehow they can gain the confidence and strength to stand up to the bullies without going to extremes such as Columbine....Also when they do go back to their High School Reunions they will be the ones admired for what they have accomplished while the Jocks are all fat and in dead end jobs....The ultimate satisfaction....I am one proud mother of a son that went through it and came out the other side while still marching to his own drum....Don't give up on them or trying to change things...Most of all love them and LISTEN....Carol J.
yes it is a shame the way the kids are harassed in school and to be different is some how wrong to these children. i am glad i have no school age children to worry about in this day and age. don;t they know variety is good not everyone is the same. we are all unique in out own little way. the schools should be held accountable especially if they knew this was going to happen. some one should have done something. for shame it is getting to be a terrible world for our young people.the world is a much harsher world today.
This is not new.... my son is over 30yrs old now... but he endured ,,, high school,, by hiding ,,, but was usually beaten each day after school.. He left school and got his GED ... Thank God ... he has gone on to become a teacher and is trying to help these students today,, he takes the "" different'" ones under his wings,,, not in an overt way, lest he be classed as a gay teacher,,, but making sure he knows whats going on in the lives of these students and making sure he is around the areas where the trouble usually starts... Our schools are over run by the bullies and drug/gang crowds... There is no disipline and no control,,left there.. The teachers are very careful of what they say and who they talk to,, they too are afraid of being beaten/abused by the kids who are running our schools... It is a very dangerous thing to send you child to a public school today... When is anything going to be done to stop this maddness????
MY SON WAS TREATED THE SAME WAY WHEN HE WAS IN SCHOOL. hE DIDNT WEAR GOLD CHAINS AND THE EXPENSIVE LABELS THAT YOU FIND ON THE CLOTHING. HE QUIT IN HIS JUNIOR YEAR AND WENT TO NIGHT SCHOOL FOR AWHILE AND EVENTUALLY GOT HIS GED.IN TODAYS STANDARDS A GED IS THE SAME AS A DIPLOMA. I DONT KNOW WHAT IS GOING TO BECOME OF THE SCHOOL SYSTEM. MY SON IS 32 YEARS OLD, HAPPLY MARRIED AND OWNS TWO BUSINESS AND DOING GREAT. I HOPE THE GRANDMA WILL KEEP SUPPORTING HER GRANDSPON. HE WILL PROBABLY DO A LOT BETTER THAN SOME OF THE BULLIES IN THE SCHOL. I THINK THE TEACHERS ARE AFRAID OF THE KIDS, THE SAME AS THE PARENTS BEING AFRAID OF THEIR KIDS. WE SHOULD GO BACK TO THE 50 AND RAISE KIDS LIKE I WAS RAISED. MY DAD NEVER SPARED THE SWITCH.
Have you gone to the school or school board? Collect all your information about your son (why is it only sons I am hearing about?)and the others who have suffered. Perhaps by going to the school board you could help another poor young man from suffering the same thing. We need to speak up. NOW! If the school board does nothing, you can always go to the governing board for the state.
I am a mother of a fifteen year old girl and an eleven year old boy. Yes, I am very concern about bullies. I was harrased as a child I do understand the hurt and the burdens carried with you for life. Bullies need to be stopped in their tracks. Even if they are "Jocks", they choose to mis-behave they need to pay the price. The students whom attend school to learn are the ones whom should be praised, they too have goals and they should have the opertunities for advancement. I do believe the athletic departments should keep active. But, they should install respect of all humans no matter what. Each individual has goals in life and no one should be bullied!!!!!! As for instucters or (adults) in charge. If they hear anything they should report it and try to stop it. What if it is an instructor or administrator, they would try to stop it. They same with students, they feel safe to walk the halls. I feel society has the blame for the way the world is. Nudity, or next to nudity on TV. Sex-volger language-body language, etc...... And irresponsible parents.I have meat a few. They should have to be forced into parenting classes,followed up on for a while after. Face their responsiblities. Teen pregnancy! ABUSE- and the reporting of. Any child who gardian has been reported more than once-take the child away. Investigate-demand THERAPY- then maybe reunite.The laws are toooo lenent. AND THOSE WHO TRASH OUR WORLD WITH JUST PLAIN GARBAGE, PICK IT UP!!!!!!!!! GOD GAVE US THIS WORLD TO TAKE CARE OF NURISH AND DWELL UPON, CLEAN UP YOUR ACT PEOPLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Smile and have a great day. Hug your family and friends. Smile at passerbyers and say have a great day! Make the world better.
YES I DO AGREE SO VERY MUCH. I ALSO WAS A STUDENT THAT WAS BULLIED . I WANTED TO JUST BELONG WITH THE GOOD CROWDS BUT WAS SKINNYA AND SHY . I HATED SCHOLL BUT COULD HAVE LIKED IT IF I JUST WAS GIVEN THE CHANCH.ALL KIDS ARE DIFFERENT SO DIFFERENT BUT WOULD EXCEPT EVERYONE AS THEY ARE. WHY CAN'T THEY EXCEPT US TO. I FEEL SORRY FOR THOSE WHO FEEL THEY ARE BETTER THEN OTHERS JUST LOOK AT BILL GATES HE WAS A NERD.SCHOOL COULD BE SO MUCH BETTER FOR THE KIDS IF ONLY THE TEACHERS WOULD KEEP ON TOP OF OF ALL.
I HAVE GRANDCHILDREN IN SCHOOL AND WHO ARE VERY SMART. I WAS BULLIED IN SCHOLL AND BECAUSE OF IT , LEFT ME HATING SCHOOL. I DON'T WANT THAT TO HAPPEN TO MY GRAND CHILDREN. PLEASE FOR THE CHILDREN SAKE .. ALL SCHOLLS PLEASE KEEP ON TOP OF THESE BULLIES AND KEEP THEM FROM HURTING OTHER CHILDREN EITHER BY WORDS OR WHAT EVER. LET THEM KNOW THAT JUST ONE OF US NERDS COULD BE THERE BEST FRIEND. AND TEACH THEM SOMETHING TO BE MAYBE A BILL GATES. 4-26-2003 CAROLE, 2OLDDOGS@AMNETLINE.COM
Hi to everyone, I would like to say how important it is that children be taught to know about "differences" our oldest daughter had an elementry teacher who was very short, and one arm was short, very short ... the teacher took the time the very first day of school and told the children why she was "different" ... our daughter came home and shared this will our family, while in tears. She said SHE would be her favorite teacher forever. I think while our children are still at a very tender age, we should point out to them "different" people, introduce them. I would hope even a stranger on the street or in a store that has "different handicaps" wouldn't mind sharing what makes them different 'IF' they knew a child is being taught to be kind to those who have handicaps. IF that isn't possible, then while in the car ... on the way home, bring up a dicussion and ask 'how, what, and feels' with your children. Our son Darrell, had his nose broken in the school cafiteria when he was a sophomore ... because he was telling some older boy (Jim) to stop picking on Allen who was born with a severe handicap. He wasn't even being angry with Jim, he just wanted him to stop picking on Allen. As he stood up to take his tray to empty it in the garbage, Jim thought Darrell was standing up to hit him. So Jim punched Darrell in the nose ... the two of them got suspended for 2 weeks. BUT, while waiting for Mothers to come to pick them up, the two of them talked to eachother, our son explained WHY he didn't like what he saying about Allen, and explained some of Allen's life to Jim. The three of them became friends. I just wish while children are young, even IF the school district has to hire some special needs people to travel around inside the school district (we all have special needs people in our areas, even the skinny, the over weight, the not so good looking, the overly good looking ... sometimes they are even left out because they may look too good) but let them come into the classrooms and talk about "feelings, hurts, embassasments etc." with these tender children before they begin to have hardened hearts. Parents, Grandparents ... and those with out children too, PLEASE ... go to the school districts and suggest there be "A KINDNESS DAY" put into place, ask them to put into each school every year as children start school especially in the (Kindergarten) and maybe even while they are in these Elementry School years, each class be allowed to hear the words of "We Are Different, BUT We Have Feelings Just Like You". Maybe things can turn around for our children of the future. My sincere feelings are, that when Our Father In Heaven was taken out of our schools, Satan has walked in. When we come to a place in our Country where we begin to fight to PUT HIM BACK IN TO OUR SCHOOLS, and in to OUR HEARTS ... HE will be there to help fight the battle we are wanting to win. In Las Vegas Nevada of all places, our school district is trying to fight to be allowed to have prayers in the graduation ceremonies ... we have been told that IF we do, there are those who will fight it in the Supreme Courts of all places. And IF we do, there are thousands and thousands of Federal Funding dollars that will be taken away. (HOW DO YOU FIGHT THIS) when the school district is fighting to keep the programs for the students? BUT the School District is still trying to fight it. Our grand-daughter was a freshman in highschool when 9-11 happened, she said for weeks every day, and in every class they started out with prayer. I was on a back east church history trip, during that time, and there were people from Colorado (NO LESS) that said there were people fighting to have EVERYTHING and ANYTHING that pertained to GOD taken out of thier SCHOOLS ... including the daycare pre-schools, that the children weren't to say the pledge, sing any of our countries anthems ... now you tell me ... WHY ... DOES THIS MAKE SENSE TO ANYONE ELSE ... What next, THOSE same people certainly don't mind spending the money that has GOD on it! (OR DO THEY... IF they can have their way on these matters, whos to STOP them on changing that also?) Now CAN YOU TELL ME, why we are having these kinds of problems in our schools, in our country!! Are we letting our wonderful country be over ran with these kinds of 'BULLIES" that have gone this far as to tell us we can not have GOD be a part of our lives? ISN'T is SAD that we think of a BULLY as being a CHILD ... mmmmmmmm mmmmm mmmmm Thanks for your reading my bandwagon speach, PLEASE DO SOMETHING ... PLEASE ask God WHAT YOU CAN DO, THEN DO IT. Sincerely, Dorthea Garlick Henderson, NV
Reguarding>>>Comments (Have you gone to the school or school board? Collect all your information about your son (why is it only sons I am hearing about?)and the others who have suffered. Perhaps by going to the school board you could help another poor young man from suffering the same thing. We need to speak up. NOW! If the school board does nothing, you can always go to the governing board for the state.)<<< Everyone does....and have for many years. My story: Ohh now that I have done and my daughter was 5 and son was 7. I also went through a living (bleep) when I was in school yes 20 years ago there was guns and rapes.And we are all just hearing about it on tv now, as well as fighting back. But is it working after a child has had enough and has become depressed and inturn takes a life as well as his own. I think not.Education is so far behind in this country, as well as underpaid teachers, and not many care anymore either. I know homeschool my children at the ages of 10 and 12 they are very smart and love it, as well as read like they were in college already. My son has A.D.D. and my daughter A.D.H.D as well as HIGH FUNCTIONING AUTISM AND DYSLEXIA. Too make a long story short I was making two trips a day to give my child medication. I would no sooner get a call come get your daughter she is asleep in class or she is too hyper today.(Because she had started a new line of meds)anyway one day I go to the school to give her her medication and I walk into the school lunch room as I do everyday, for her to follow me to the office. Well, this day I walk in and this teacher has grabbed her and proceeds to spin her back around and I see and hear what she is saying. I walk up to her,as I hear her say. "I told you to be still!" while she has her nails dug into my daughters sholder!!! Let's just say I caused a scene and removed her fingers from my daughter. Long story short, she was a sub and was fired.Then come two weeks later I come to the school to give her meds and by this time we had changed times docters orders, anyway I walk up to her room look inside noi Jessica. I go in and say, "Where is she? Because I have already been to the office so I knew she was not there.Come to find out they had noT even missed her! But anyway ALMOST 3 hours later and 6 police combing the district, reports out all over town a 5 year old is missing.(vanished) I drive everywhere looking and praying and find her across a interstate, in a tennis court to which she had climbed up onto the net and was hanging upside down with her foot caught in the fencing net that goes around the whole area. I almost fainted!!!I get her and return to the school, very glad I have found her and the officer alerts everyone, she has been found.(almost 3 hours later!) What had happened was someone was making fun of her on the playground and she went over to tell the teacher (her teacher)and the lady told her phony bolongy .....Anyway she wanted to come home, which she hated it there anyway, so her being hyper and etc. She thought she could. I had warned them all not to turn there backs on her because she was so hyper and was always wondering off, I could never turn my back in a store, she was so easly distracted.A note, that teacher taught my son the year before, told me flat out one day I hope I do not get your daughter! (and I was the only room mother who ever showed up to help her!)My daughter and son were dyslixic and she barly passed my son, and he still could not read. But she didnt want him again, see. My daughter she told me up front, she would flunk! After everything had happened I took them out and homeschooled them. The best thing I could have ever did for my children.They are very well behaved now, even in public(better than most no joke) excellent manners to adults as well as help others. And they love to learn.Most people say homeschooled children need more socialism.........They are so wrong. It's society that needs better manners.Just because a child is differnt they catch all of this negetive influence. Did you know Beethoven as well as Tom Cruise, Cher,As well as many of our President's had learning disabilites as well as mental problems and were homeschooled. And society let them down too. But they being so highy intelligent made a big impact of this world, through it all. No matter how hard we fight the school board or government about bulling it has seemed to do no good. I for one wrote the governor as well as butted heads with many school officals, where did it get me, you ask? A better eye put on my children in the class room, but look what happened anyway. The solution to bulling has to stop at home, parents whom raise bullies and our teachers who let it continue! I fought and fought until it ended the way it did anyway.(No child should be taught they are better than others and that making fun of people is right) It's all over tv also........What can do you? Ignore most of the world who already make fun of others who mess up or dress different, call each other names,No, but you can make a difference starting with your children and grandchildren......How? By teaching them it's ok to be different! It's ok to be smart.Just be whom they are and let no one with different views, such as bullies every take that away from you. God Bless America! firstname.lastname@example.org
Ohh boy the typos........Excuse them, hope my point still got across, and helps someone whom reads this. Lots of love and hugs grandma. Best wishes for your grandson and his friends. They are truely the ones whom will make the real difference in the world! email@example.com
How about some changes in policy in our school system. I have run into this type of thing before and instead of punishing the students that do the teasing and bullying they expell both the bully and the victim for a period of time. I'm sorry but for principles and teachers that are supposed to have "Higher Learning" where is their common sense? First of all giving the offending student time off is not a punishment, having to come in everyday and do his studying and home work in the office is a punishment. I was shocked to find out our neighbor took their teen out of school and now he is being home teached. Because he is overweight he was being teased constantly and there were all sorts of problems. Another shocking thing was one of the teachers made snide remarks about this boys weight in front of other students. Is this the kind of teacher we want teaching our children? It is a shame, his parents pay taxes and support the schools but they can't send their son to one. We raised four children and you can bet they all knew better than to tease or bully another student. Another concerned Grandmother
i hope that things will get better in our society, but no one is allowed to disipline students. parents don't want their kids corrected,then when they act up who's fault is it. a good paddle,take the play station away ,even the car,whatever it takes,out of school suspension is a joke!!!! make them stay in school everyday or extend the school year for the bad ones,show these bullies a taste of their own medicine,send them into an adult prison, belittle them!!!!! get their eyes open
LETS PUT THE NAMES OF THESE SCHOOLS THAT DO NOT PROTECT THEIR STUDENTS, AND THE NAMES OF THE BULLIES ON THE INTERNET. LET EMPLOYERS LOOK AT IT AND CHECK PEOPLE APPLYING FOR JOBS TO SEE IF THEIR NAME IS ON FOR BEING A BULLY. THEN DON'T HIRE THEM. MAYBE THAT WILL GET TO THE KIDS IN SCHOOL AND STRAIGHTEN THEM OUT. BULLIED CHILDREN ALWAYS COME BACK WITH GUNS. AND THE SAME TEACHERS AND PRINCIPALS THAT DON'T PROTECT THEM ALWAYS GET SHOT. GODS JUSTICE.... BULLIES HAVE TO BE CAREFUL, WHEN THEY GO LOOKING FOR A JOB AFTER SCHOOL, ITS USUALLY THE ONES THEY PICKED ON WHO ARE THE BOSS. EVIE O.
They are still so young and do not think that what they do or say will hurt them ..,"Our only purpose in life is to love one another , and if we can't do that ,we must try not to hurt each other,"If the Lord brings it to them ,he will bring them throubh it ..<>.Grandma Coleman..
Concerned is the word ,What are the grown-up aduits doing ??. they are in charge..This is why there is a lot of home schooling , we went our chilren to be safe at all times ..So very sad ..Ginger Coleman..
Dear Concerned Gramma, Why don`t you call your congressman, your pastor, chief of police, statepolice, everyone you think of, the newspaper editor,etc CALL,CALL and CALL somemore-- another one-- the Televison stations!!!!!!! You can make a difference!!!
We are living in hard times and I feel so sorry for the young people in school three of my grand children are in collage but I have one in first grade and my son moved out in a very small town ,I am so sorry about the time you all are having and I pray to God that people would wake up and make the young people care for each other,the teachers in that school should take more notice of what is going on.I wish you and your family the beat of luck.
I work in the school system. Where I work we have a Character Counts program and most of us truly enforce it. I do morning recess everyday, I praise the ones that are following the rules and the ones that don't either have a nice little chit chat with me. I have found that the ones that are bullies are looking for some type of attention. The children that I have caught being bullies are now always coming to me and asking if they can help do something. They are showing much more respect for their classmates. I am also dealing with middle school children from 5-8th grades. I don't care if the childs parent is a teacher in the town I work in or the Principals children. All are treated the same. I tell everyone, I don't live here, I just work here. I don't know you from Adam. If you do wrong on my playground duty time, you do the consequence. It always includes an apology that sounds sincere and spend time with me. Jokingly the older children called me the "Playground Nazi" but they found when they needed someone to stand-up for them, it was me that was usually sent for. I am treated with respect because I treat all the children and adults with the same respect I want. I feel more people need to follow this golden rule. I see how much the taunting and teasing hurts these children and I do all I can to stop it (I too was teased & harassed in school). They get extra attention and praise. I have always tried to teach my children and grandchildren the same. I have taken my children and grandchildren around special needs people to make them aware of the difference in all people. Where I work I would say that at least 60% of the faculty try to do the same. We the 60% will get in parents & students faces about harassing others. Not to be mean but to show a point. I know it is difficult to stop, but many of us that work in the school systems are trying our best to stop this harrassment of other children. Unfortunately only the bad guy is recognized, that are not being a responsible citizen. Good Luck to all. It feels like a hopeless situation. God Bless All
Just want to make it clear we NEVER embarras either person. That is a very important tactic. No one wants to feel embarrassed and want to be treated as an equal. We also have a logo that says STOP DISRESPECT INVOLVING STUDENTS it has been working.
JUST READ THE LETTER FROM THE CONCERNED GRANDMA IN REPLY I JUST DON'T THINK THERE IS A SOLUTION FOR THIS TYPE OF THING. IN MY OWN SITUATION WE WERE VERY POOR AND I HAD TO BE RAISED BY MY GRANDPARENTS BECAUSE MY MOM WAS SO YOUNG AND THEY HAD TO GET MARRIED SO SHE GAVE ME AWAY. THOSE KIDS IN MY CLASS WERE SO MEAN THEY MADE FUN OF MY CLOTHES AND MY TEETH WERE ROTTEN AND A DENTIST WAS UNHEARD BACK IN THE 30'S SO YOU SEE WHAT I AM SAYING? ALL WE CAM DO IS PRAY FOR THEM AND YOU GRANDSON. MY HEART GOES OUT TO YOU GOOD LUCK AND YOU WILL BE ON OUR PRAYER LIST.
I am in agreement with the person who stated that things went sour when God was removed from the classroom. The devil is quite a charmer. He puts things in front of us that seem very enticing and he slowly but surely sucks us into his evil. We must first of all teach our children about God's way....the only sure way to succeed. Each one of us can reach one other person daily and tell them about Jesus Christ and that person's need of salvation. Then and only then will parents be able to help their children live in an evil world. This is a solution that requires something from each of us whether we have children of our own or not. I raised 2 daughters and l son and carried them to Sunday School every Sunday (Yes, I stayed as well) It was a family thing. My son was picked on in elementary school, but he learned from example after example in the Bible how to react. His SS teachers and his father and I were there for him also. In His Love,
I went throu the same thing when my kids went to school. I'm so glad mind is out of achool because i couldn't go throu another year. My two boys also got their GED just becaudse it is so hard to go to school if you aren't in the rich group. My boy was also hare lip and cleft plafe and it make them have a speech problem.Buddies and the Jock take over the school and the teachers will take up for the rich and the jocks.I see why kids don't like to go to school.
I personally think "bullying" should be reason for suspension. There is no good reason to even tolerate such an act. The only reason it continues is the people in authority are turning their heads the other way and not accepting responsibility to enforce the school rules. These so-called bullies know they can get away with it too. When someone is accused of "bullying", the parents should be notified immediately and the student should be taken home that day by the parents. If the parents are bothered enough to have to get out of work, they may worry about losing their jobs. There is no room for bullies in the school system and the sooner they know this, the better all students will feel about the environment in their schools. Other students probably don't get involved because they feel they will fall victim to the vicious act. I hope like every other parent that there will be a stop to this immediately. Grace Smith
I am a concerned Grandma, also, because my oldest grandson chooses to be different and share time with his friends, and study hard to try to get a scholarship, and tries to have a good time in high school, so he will have good memories, but I know there are the others who make fun of him and his friends, because they play chess, and they are in the school band , and they even had small parts in the spring play..........What to do ? I do not know, except to love these kids like they have never been loved before, and praise them, and encourage them , and, to be there for them when they need someone.. We tell our grandchildren and ALL their friends, that our house is a "safe house", and that they are ALL welcome, always, to come here and be with us. We encourage them to talk to us about school, or anything they wish to talk about, and if there is some sort of problem, hopefully, we would be able to help them solve it. JUST BE THERE FOR THESE KIDS. Let them know that they can count on us .....
My son is a Senior in Public High School and he voices so many concerns and can barely wait to graduate to get out of school where he says most of the teachers just don't care. My niece that is the same age as my son in another public school just refused to go back when she turned 18. She will need to get her GED. Our children are facing things we never had to in the public schools. I pray for my son all the time and have seen my prayers answered over and over. My son wants to handle things on his own. He says if I go to the school it will only make things worse on him.
My Dad was the Principal of our small school district. I never realized how much I suffered until years later. I just thought that that was the way things were supposed to be. I finally wrote a little paper called "Go Away Dan!" "We don't want you around us!" That helped. Someday I might show it to some people. I am 68 years old and my grade and high school scars still hurt. Dan
I'M THANKFUL THERE ARE PARENTS WHO TEACH THEIR CHILDREN THERES ANOTHER WAY TO HANDLE A PROBLEM .WITH LOVE INSTEAD OF VIOLENCE OUR CHILDREN SEE NOTHING BUT CRITISIZUM,HATRED,MURDER,DRUGS, LYING,CHEATING,THEFT,HATRED FOR GOD AND OUR COUNTRY AND THE CHURCH AND THEN WONDER WHY THINGS LIKE THIS HAPPENS.GODS NOT ALLOWED THERE SO SOMETHINGS TAKEN HIS PLACE. THEY KNOW WE ARE KILLING LITTLE UNBORN BABIES SO WHY SHOULD THEY HAVE ANY FAITH OR TRUST IN US.UNTIL THEY SEE A REAL CHANGE IN OUR LIVES THEY WILL STAY JUST AS DISALUSIONED AS THEY ARE NOW.THEY NEED SOMETHING DESRATELY TO HOLD ON TO .AND THAT IS JESUS AND NOTHING ELSE WILL EVER DO.GOD HELP OUR CHILDREN. THEIR OUR FUTURE.HAVE MERCY ON US IF WE FAIL THEM.
My son was also bullied as a teenager. He was a new student from the city in a small town school. He was called lots of names, among them "gay", also & was challenged to a fight after school almost daily. He was a straight A student until then, & also quit school. He got his GED without even studing. I know that it will always be a bad memory for him as it will be for me. The only thing I would do differently is I would be at that school every day if I had to do it again. It is so hard when they are teenagers without having to put up with being bullied. I wish I had an answer, I only wanted to share my experience as this happened 10 years ago, cant imagine what children go thru these days. God Bless & Good Luck
I am another concerned Grandmother. It is to bad that if you choose to study or dress different,to spend your free time not in the same way that someone else does. This also happens in homes wher there is a divorce for instance. These children feel that no one will listen to them. We have a Grandaughter that when I told her she had to speak up to their counsel. Her words were But No On Listens to me. This can change their attitude to. It is hard to see all this happen before our eyes. And we have been told on more then one occasion that we are only Grandparents and don' have a thing to say about what is happening. More concerned Grandparrents.
Homeschool would be a very good solution to Concerned Grandmothers problem!!
I'm another concerned grandma! I have a grandaughter who is 15 and goes to a private christian school. It is wonderfully academically, but there is so much wealth in this particular school, that it is pitiful. 16 year olds have brand new expensive cars, extra curicular activites cost "a couple of hundred dollars" as causually as most school activites would cost $20. My grandaughter who comes from a middle class/income family just can't complete in this respect, although she does very well with her studies. She is a strong christian, and and has alwasy gone to Christian schools, but this is just as much of a problem as the kids who are less fortunate, and have to deal with a different set of problems. Kids are snooty if you don't have the same social status as they do...She has played sports, but was never really accepted by the others because she isn't part of the "in crowd". So many kids today seem to be "left out' I hate to see all of this happening, because she is such a great person, and wants to do good to everyone. She LIVES her Christian beliefs....but gets very hurt on many occasions... Just thought I'd vent a bit! It isn't just certain ethnic or social groups, or how much money you do or don't have....there are problems everywhere, and we need to stand on the Word, and help these kids coming up now in every way we possibly can....Thanks...A grandma in San Antonio, TX
I can understand your feelings about this! I come from a small town too and its the same way here and everyone never notices anything except for the children they call different. If the children wants to learn and be more into classes they call them names but if they are into sports or clowns of the class it seems like those are the ones that get by with everything ,alot of the parents are waiting because they believe there is going to be trouble at this school. Most of the kids quit and get their GEDS to just to get out of the tension in the school. Tell your grandson to keep his head up and keep going the way he wants and not let no one stand in his way, he can do it my daughter did.
I read your letter knowing exactly how you feel. My 14 year old daughter had her entire mental health history "mistakenly" left on the copy machine at school. It was then "mistakenly" copied onto the back of an 8th grade choir handout and read by most of the school. The pricipal didn't apologize when confronted, he just kept saying,"I don't know how this happenned; what do you want me to do about it?" The school is located in the same small rural town that we live in, even though it accepts children from nearby communities; so the end result is not only has the news spread through the school, but through our town and church as well. My daughter became increasingly frustrated by all the talk swirling around her. No one (teachers, counselors, staff) showed her an ounce of mercy or concern. Her grades went from B's to F's. Most of the teachers wouldn't let her come into the classroom; she was given her work and told to sit out in the hall. How is a child expected to learn out in the hallway? I finally had enough; Friday I removed her from the school. She will be homeschooled for the remaining 4 weeks of school. This should have been an exciting time for her, leaving middle school and getting ready for high school, but it has been a nightmare. The saddest thing is that most of the children in school didn't cause this; IT WAS THE ADULTS! Shame on them.
I am also a concerned Grandmother. My granddaughter will be going to a private Christian school but there are many children who cannot and my concern is for them. All chidren are our future and our concern. The problem of much concern is this. I have been reading lately of how the NEA (National Education Association) a union for educators with a left wing political agenda and the PTA (Parent Teachers Association) have alligned themselves with homosexual activists to teach our public school children from kindergarten through grade 12 that homosexuality is no different then heterosexuality. This is to be accomplished through books, films, guest speakers from homosexual oganizations and the hiring of homosexual teachers who will openly in the classroom discusss their chosen deathstyle with the children. This is done without parental consent and when possible without parental knowledge. This propagandized indoctrination of our children is cloaked in the quise of " community and child friendly" sounding names such as "Safe Schools". Such programs hold no safety for Christian students who will be classified as intolerant homophobes and given lessons in "Political Correctness". Other workshops will explain "How To" preform homosexual acts and encourage students to experiment. Yes, this is disgusting and I am sorry for having to be so explicit but we parents and grandparents must be aware that our schools will be pressured by the homosexual activists and liberal politians to enact these programs. It has been years since I was active in my children's schools, for they are both adults now, perhaps I missed something. When did parents sign over their children to the state, the NEA, PTA or the pubic school system? Can we all agree that the teaching of morality is the responsibility, the privilege and the duty of the parents not the schools? A concerned Christian grandmother and citizen
I really feel sorry for the kids in school today that have to edure this kind of crap. My three sons are all grown now and went to a school from 1st to 8th that is a school that never had that kind of stuff, and is very good today. We know we were very furnutate in that score. When our youngest left that school to go to high school, he was having the same problem, so I went to the princaple. I got the answer that my son had to change his attitude and adapt. We had always taught our kids to stand up to any thing like that, and my son was now trying to do that. We decided to take him out of school, because he was not being supported by the school. I think back now, and wished I would have taken a different action, but we were worried that someone would have hurt him, or he hurt someone else. He was fighting back, but that scared us into thinking he would be the on to get in trouble. I think that is the problem all over today. No support from the schools. But this is still America, and we are the ones who are really in control. We have to start getting the right people in to the higher offices and get the right people into all areas of public service. I think prayer getting back in school, would be a great start. Having President Bush in the presidency is a great start. Lets get behind this good man. He doesn't tolerate any bullies, and that is the way it should be. With him in the controls and the men he has picked to help, this problem can be solved. Bob L sr
Dear Concerned Grandma, I too am a Grandma of 7, and I'm so scared for my grandkids that are in a school district that over looks a lot, they say they don't do that but they do. I know that for a fact because I worked for 1 school district and left there and now working for another one. And it is just about the same way. I have a good opportunity to see what goes on thru out a school day with a lot of our kid's and I see the bullies and see kid's that our like you grandson and his group. You keep on what you are doing for your grandson and friends. And they will come out in the long run. And they will thank you one day for being there for them. We all have to stick together for our love ones. Grandma--From Pa.
This whole situation is very unfortunate, but it is not just in the schools. Just take a look at how our country has changed. Where are the parents that should be teaching their children right from wrong? It is pretty obvious to me that when you take your Maker out of every situation what you see is what you get! People are running to find the golden calf and in their actions show they only care for themselves. Until this country gets down on its knees again the situation is only going to get a lot worse. Prayer is the only answer!!!! I am a very concerned christian!
I think this Grandma should be thanked for sharing her concerns publicly and for saying "We need some help here!" That is the beginning of turning things around. I think speaking out, be visible at school and school functions, attending school board meetings and just talking/listening to our kids are all things we can do and should do to make changes occur. It is "work" to be involved with them, but they are oour little ones for only a short time, and when our "work" is done we want to feel good about the results and the time they spent in those turbulent teens! Also, if we are a visible presence at the schools, the meetings, etc., we have credibility when it is time for us to speak out in support or in disagreement on various issues. Thank you, "Grandma" for sharing! Your letter initially saddened me as it informed me, but now after thinking it over, the sadness is a catalyst for making a difference.
I so agree with this grandmother. I am not a grandmother but one of the older mothers instead. Although my own son does not conform he does not seem to have many problems either but the things I see. If I did not have to work I would not send my children to the public school system. I did homeschool my second son and he did beautifully in school when he got to high school, but the horror stories I have had from all of my children. The teachers seem to belittle children also. I think it is a sad comment on our society when the teachers do not teach anymore. If a child "gets" it then fine but for a child that really needs to learn and needs a little help there does not seem to be any. When the teachers see bullying, they turn the other way until it explodes like this instance that the grandmother speaks of. In my son's school, the teachers speak foul language that I do not want my sons using and when confronted with it, the administrators are always "checking into it". Why is there no action ever taken for these things? We are supposed to be in one of the better school districts in the St. Louis area. If this is the better one, what on earth is happening in the worse ones? My prayers go up for children today. With both parents working in many homes, the kids do not have an option. I am glad mine are almost grown.
To the concerned Grandma, Your feelings out how the schools are is the same way a lot of people feel about the thoughts of sending their sons into the schools. I do feel that a lot of schools do say they have 0 tolerance, but do they really. In a way yes and then in a way no. Look at the latest shooting that happened near Harrisburg Pa where at one moment there is this 14 yr old boy just sitting with his fellow classmates and then boom he shoots the principal and then kills himself in front of his classmates. That there is a pure sign of the distress that some of our children face everyday. What will happen next makes everyone wonder. Our schools are in lock down all the time with all doors locked at every entrance and cameras at the doors where you have to be buzzed to get in. How far can we go to protect our children. We protect them so much from the abuse and name calling, and believe me i have four boys under 12 and they complain all the time about kids at school, and when they tell a teacher it seems they are ignored or just brushed off. There is so much going on out there that maybe the teachers are feeling the pressure, and have had enough themselves. I was always taught that you respect each other for they were not responsible on how they were born or what color they maybe, and i have taught my children the same thing. What has happened to our schools over the past 5 years is unbelievable. Like it is no big deal to walk in with a loaded gun or to take the lives of all the innocent children who will never have the chance to grow up, and to all the parents whose children were taken from them will never be able to go on without them. I couldn't imagine losing my children especially to all the hate that is in our schools. We can only protect them so far and teach them all that we know on how to protect them from the bullies that are out there.
I am also a Grandma, but with health restrictions. All I can do is pray but actually that is the only thing that gets the ball rolling. I am praying for you and thank you so much for loving our Savior, our Lord Jesus. I appreciate your site and can feel your goodness in it. God Bless I. Linedecker firstname.lastname@example.org
To the children that are being abused. God bless you .The school is responsiable for protecting the children. Those that are differnt are children of gods. The school should be reorted to the atthoritys And stop the miss treatment of children. My heart goes out to the grandmother and her grandson. And the other children that are being abbused. Its sad that adults would stand by and allow a child to be abbused right in front of them and not lift a hand to report it or get help. My thaughts and prayers are with you and these recious abused children of god. someone has to be brave enough to put a stop to it.
This letter hit home! I live in a very small town of 450 people in the heartland of the US and it is happening here too! My son is a gifted and talented young man, but because of the harrasment he got in school, he dropped out at the end of his sophomore year and took his GED. Now my daughter is being ostracized because she is not an athlete or part of the "in" crowd. She too is a talented young lady who loves music, and works hard for her grades. She does not got run around with the "in" group that drinks and thinks that they are better than anyone else. She is dating a fine young man from out of town, and that makes her a target for nasty remarks. It is time that we put God back into our schools, and gave the administration the right to discipline again!! We as parents and grandparents must stand up to this and get tough!! No child should ever be pushed to the point of no return, where he feels the only way to solve his problems is to permanently get rid of the problem. I hope no one minds but I copied this letter and will be printing it in our local paper!! Wake up America, we are raising a whole generation of spoiled bullies, and it is just going to get worse!!
Hello, I was so surprised to read the Comment "School Bullies", as almost the identical thing happined to my Grandson in Jensen Beach, Fla. He was in his Senior year, and had tolerated the same kind of treatment. Finally, he had a nervous breakdown, and needed to be hospitalized for months . That was last year, and he is still recovering, Thank God!! His parents both went to the Principal of the school to complain, only to be told "Kids will be Kids"...It has just devastated the whole family over this kind of treatment. I am so happy they are passing laws to try and stop this bullying in schools. Thank you for letting me voice my comment. Rosemarie Pochron email@example.com
Dear Concerned Grandma, First of all let me say I admire your courage for getting this out on the internt because people on the internet can be as cruel and hateful as the ones you mentioned at your grandson's school. My heart aches for the whole world because this world has been forced to take "God" and "Prayer" out of our schools. I get so angry when I hear so many people standing up for their rights to have "God" taken out of everything. What about the rights of us God Fearing Christians? Don't we have any rights? I will always stand up for God! We all know the reason that schools and society are faced with such cruelty and violence is because Our Savior is being pushed in a closet. I say...PUT GOD AND PRAYER BACK EVERYWHERE!! I also feel with our wonderful President that is a God loving, God fearing man, now would be the time for us as Christians to stand up and have God and prayer put back where it belongs. I was teased and made fun of in school and after school because I was "FAT". It made me an angry and bitter person. Anyone who looked at me wrong I wanted to beat up. That was my way of protecting my heart that was always broken and shattered by all the cruelty. I carried the anger and bitterness for years until I had my son 21 years ago and God revealed to me to RELEASE my anger and turn it into love for my son.PRAISE THE LORD! I am no longer angry. If anyone calls me FAT now I say, yeah that's right but I love me and God loves me and thats all I need so POOF AND BE GONE. They usually look at me wierd and scratch their head and usually don't bother me anymore. I was able to achieve standing up for myself through the love of my dearly departed mother and the love of my Heavenly Father. I am 44 years old now and I have overcome many obstacles through my FAITH in God. He will see you and your grandson through these trying times. We will join you through Faith, Hope and Prayer that things will get better for you all and US as a nation. God Bless you Concerned Grandma and GOD BLESS AMERICA In Christ.........Jo Anne
Its alful what kids go thou today. When I was high school I got tease I been out of high school 26 years and It still hurts to this day. Easy for others to say to that person that's being tease "just ingrone them but to the person who being teasing that does not help. It's one of those things that you have walk in that person foot steps to know how there feel.alot of the prolbem is teacher are not allow to corret a child these days but some of teachers just don't care! then there a few that will go there extrz step and take the time to say " I CARE ABOUNT YOU" Those teachers and friends are angels from god There leave foot steps in your heart there stay there all of yourlife. I had few teachers like that. Bullys at the schools need to be stop and made to realize what there doing to other kids, II will kepp the kids thats going thou in my prayers ................. take care and GOD BLESS YOU HANG IN THERE ....... god loves you and so doI!
HELLO, I WAS VERY SADDENED OVER THIS GRANDMOTHERS LETTER. I REALLY FEEL THAT PERHAPS IT WOULD HELP IF THE STUDENTS IN EVERY GRADE HAD TO WEAR UNIFORMS. I THINK THIS MIGHT TAKE SOME OF THE PRESSURE OFF. I ALSO FEEL THERE IS SUCH A BREAKDOWN IN OUR FAMILIES THESE DAYS, THAT OUR KIDS ARE BEING RIPPED APART,THERE ARE NO ABSOLUTES TO SPEAK OF, TEACHERS (SOME) DON'T TEACH TRADITIONAL EDUCATION, THE STUDENTS HAVE TOO MANY RIGHTS IN SCHOOL, SOME PARENTS DON'T WANT THEIR CHILDREN CORRECTED. BUT MOST OF ALL, I BELIEVE THE BIGGEST PROBLEM IS "THE HOME", PARENTS ARE NEGLECTING THEIR RESPONSIBILTY, RAISE YOUR CHILD UP TO GO TO CHURCH, READ THE BIBLE, PRAY TOGETHER,STOP GETTING DIVORCED!STOP ALLOWING OUR CHILDREN TO WATCH THESE TERRIBLE SHOWS ON T.V. (THROW IT OUT). I'M COULD GO ON AND ON, BUT I FEEL GOD MUST BE IN THE PICTURE. THANK YOU FOR LETTING ME SPEAK.I, TOO AM A GRANDMOTHER OF AN 11 YEAR OLD.A REAL HANDFUL! BECAUSE OF HIM, MRS. MARGARET KUHN...DUNKIRK,MD
Dear Concerned Grandma, First of all, go to the local board of education, voice your concerns and expect specific answers from them. If there are no results within a reasonable time (you set the time) then contact the state board of education and request the same attention. If you are not successful with either or both of these boards, contact your local representive. Follow the chain of command up to and including the governor.If these children are being restrained from getting an education due to unacceptable behavior by the other children, our country is lost. Our children are our future. Be assertive and take no excuses as answers, if that doesn't work, become agressive with your request. SOMEONE will listen if the wheel sqeaks loud enough. My prayers are with you, your grandson, his friends and the people responsible for derelict of duty.
I have heard that this very same thing is happening in my little town. The serious student is being bullied by the 'jocks'. Some of the teachers are being bullied by the same 'jocks' The serious student is being ignored by the high school staff in favor of the jocks, as more money comes from the alumni for sports. They cannot afford to alienate anyone for fear of financial retaliation. They are also very intolerant of folks who are not of the Christian persuasion. I have heard of two families who had to leave the mountain, at great financial loss, because of the problems their children were having at the high school Going to the Principal and to the School Board changed nothing. Isn't sad what we are teaching our children?
Boy, this is certainly a sad shape our world is in, isn't it? I have no more children in school, Thank Goodness!! The schools are being run so different anymore, with no discipline and everyone including teachers are afraid of the bullie. It is really sad that a boy has to play sports in order to "normal". God has got his hands full with this problem. BUT truely I think a lot of the problems lie in the hands of the parents today. Too busy working and being their kids friend not their parent.
It is bad and needs to be stopped> the teachers and school personal can not do any thing they have tied there hands. Need to give some way to get to you do as I say. need to give the ones that can do something can do something about it and when this happens make them suffer the same thing that every John Doe dopes.
Many schools are like this and it is not good. The good students will fall out and the school will soon have a bad bunch ONLY, going there. It will not stop untill some thing terrible happens and that's sad....
i think what needs to be done is have a parent a father at the school every day, surely one a day or something and really let the bullies know what it is like, then i feel it would surely stop, i know that if my husband had seen our boys harrassed like that it would have ended really quick, he would have only to look at them, and that would have been it, it is a disgrace that kides have to feel that way, i am an older lady now, but when i was in school,, i had agirl do it to me, who was poor, really poor, and used to threaten me to bring her some clothes etc, until i told my brother, he soon settled it, she never bullied anyone agian, and tried to be my friend afterwards, which she became,
My son was also bullied when he was in school.....he had a speech impediment and was in speech therapy until the 7th grade...he had improved alot but still had a problem with the r sound...he got teased every single day by someone..he also was suspended because of the many times he got into fights because he couldn't take it anymore...He also was teased over his horse...kids would say nasty things about him and his beloved horse..he wouldn't even where a shirt with a horse on it for fear of being teased.....but the good thing is....he turned out to be a wonderful person..he's 27 now, and a firefighter in the military with 3 wonderful kids of his own....The problem in our society is today all rights to disipline has been taken away from schools and parents....when I was young you had better not had to go to principals office....if you got paddled there you would also be in trouble at home..so most were always on their best behavior....unfortunately that is not like it is today, kids have no respect for anything or anybody because they know there aren't any consiquences to their actions....We need to bring back Prayer in School and the Paddle in the Principals office and disipline in the home......They say what doesn't kill you makes you stronger...its a scary world we live in......Grandma please always be there for the kids...they only have us to rely on to be there the bureacrats could care less........
It is time for Grandma to get involved in the grandson school with other FATHERS and MOTHERS these are YOUR kids and future leaders of their towns in most cases not the bullies of today. I think of my day and my mother and father and what they would have done if I and my brother or sisters were in your grandsons place there is a chief of police and town leaders whose job is to stop this type of action or we end up with leaders like there are overseas NOW is the time and place to stand up and put the people who are the leaders to the test. LET'S ROLL AMERICA I'm with you grandma signed GREAT-GREAT GRANDPA
FEAR THE MOST STABALIZING FACTOR IN ANY SOCIETY The most asked question today is what has gone wrong in our society. The answer can be given in three words, "THE LACK OF FEAR". How and by what logic have I arrived at this conclusion? It was by simply reviewing my childhood years, 1921-1938. In retrospect, I realize that it was pure unadulterated fear of God, parents, teachers, police and other authority figures. To this date I can remember, with love and respect, the many "tough love" lessons imparted to me by my parents, relatives, teachers and others.I was taught obedience without question, the difference between right and wrong, good manners, civil behavoir, respect for adults and authority figures, not to cry, whine and lastly not to lie, cheat or steal. Above, I used the term "tough love" to emphasize that the imposition of discipline upon a child is not done out of cruelty, but out of love. Without discipline none of the rules for the conduct of civil society can maintained. Civilization is a thin veneer that seperates us from the jungle and that it can't be maintained without discipline
Many excellent teachers are leaving the school systems and turning to other forms of employment because of th conditions that exist in the school systems today. I personally have a close friend, teacher, perament back injury from trying to break up a fight. Those of us approaching retirement know that these conditions were handled much differently when we were in the school system. We would have been expelled. Children today are taught from day one, they are not allowed to defend themselves! They will be expelled! Why are the bullies never expelled? Why are they allowed to continue in the system? Where are the parents of these children? Too many children are raising themselves!!!!!! No one stayes homes and takes the responsibility for the care of their children. These children are the victims of neglect and abuse. They are taking their problems out on those who are weaker, smarter or have better parents. I stayed home and raised my child. Its time to take a stand and make parents directly responsible for the actions of their children. No not hesitate to press charges, to sue for damages, to report these actions. Form groups for the protection of your children. Those who were different when we were in school, were those who acted badly, dressed in an unsuitable manner etc. We had dress codes! We lived and learned required behavior. I have no solution for your grandson and his different friends. They should be proud they are different!!!! They are our superior citizens of tomorrow. They need our endless support and an understanding by adults of how difficuly it is to be strong enougth to be different. They must understand they are not different they are BETTER. Try to find activities unrelated to their school 4-H being number one on my list. Every state has an extension service. Boy Scouts, Girl Scouts. Don't have a group, volunteer, be a leader. The range of activities in 4-H is limitless. find an interest form a club. EVERY CHILD NEEDS TO KNOW THEY ARE GOOD AT SOMETHING11
I know that for evil to prevail,good people only have to do nothing----this is what is happening at our schools and elsewhere with our young people----I think we need to involve ourselves in the schooling process by being there to listen to the kids. I call and talk to my 14yr old granddaughter every day---she even goes to school and tells the other kids that her grandmother cares enough to call and talk---she was amazed that other grandmothers didn't do the same---something so little as talking can make the biggest differance-----My 73yr old sister goes to the middle school 2 times a week to mentor 2 girls---we just need to care and take the time to listen--thank you----someone who cares!!
this terrible problem is everywhere..and teachers and administrators all turn a blind eye...some how they should be made accountable for what happens inside the school grounds and buildings...we struggle with the exact same thing in this very small town and no one seems to really care...
When they took away our right to displine our children, they allowed evil to prevail. Bulling seems to be the norm and god help anyone thay dares to be different. My grandaughter also left high school and took her Gde. To have to quit school in your senor year is horrible. She missed out on the prom and all the fun things because of how she was treated. Not as much by the pupils but by the teachers. She was injured and had to be out of school olmost a month. Some of the teachers would not let her make-up tests. Her math teacher told her, when she tried to get help, that algebra was to hard to tutor. Prior to this she was a honor student. Since when has illness held against a person. I live in a country where this is not allowed, thank goodness. I would like to see the system bring back punishment and God to the classroom. From one concerned grandmother to another. June in Canada
I too was a concened Mother. The same thing happened to 2 of my sons. This happened way back in the 60's. One son was held with a knofe at his throat. The Officials sais "Boys will be boys" and nothing was done. The youngest was allergic to colored socks and had to wear white socks. He was beaten up by the neighbor boy who was a bully. We went to his father and his father said thats too bad. Both of the bullies are now serving time in the prison. This could have been prevented if only the parents had did something about the problem.
I personally agree with the Grandmother, that there is no dicipline in the school system any more and our kids have to be send there to be bullied around by a so called in group. I am so thankful that my children are out of these situations but like the grandmother I too have grandchildren in the school system and I worry daily about the situations they may have to face, I think they should put God back in the school room and get some faculty with some backbone, and maybe some of this could be stopped.
my daughter dropped out of school last year becuz she wasnt good enough all of a sudden she had gone to the same school all her life and then everything changed she didnt do drugs she wouldnt hang out she just chose the stay home needless to say she got her ged a year before her class and is doing great the irony of that is its my family that called her a loser and neglected to send her grad money "because she didnt graduate" i pray for these people every day becuz they never had to want for nothing i was a single parent working full time to take care of my babies all their life with a dead beat dad and i did it and with the help of my parents andGOD we are just fine so yes i do know what the school system has to offer our youth these days and i pray everyday for our youth GOD BLESS EM, thanks for listening god bless us all sherry
I to am a grandmother. I have been in the school system for many years and my thought is if the parents would have some discipline at home and take away these fancy cars and make them walk once in awhile it would help the situation. What a difference in the children from when I started in the system and now. The filthy talk is terrible. They do not respect the others,Im not saying they are all that way but the biggest percent of them. It is so sad. I still have grandchildren in school and it makes me sad to see some teachers do not take their time with these children that need help, that have health problems, seems they glorify in being mean to them. Then we have some that can't do enough for them. Would help if they would weed out the unworthy teachers and administration section also. They are real good about "If you don't have the right name". A concerned American Citizen
The problems in our school systems are actually unbelievable. I have twin grandsons in their last year of middle school. At least this way, they have each other to rely on. In their case, even some of their teachers that they have had, have been as bad, if not worse, than the kids they have encountered. In one case, the one boy in eighth grade, brought to the teachers attention that there was a condom under her desk (of course not calling it by that name but bringing it to her attention). He was harassed for days by that teacher even given extra homework and the condom stayed there. When they took God out of the schools, the devil REALLY took over.
I know how these children feel. My daughter went through the same thing and dropped out. She is 21 and now she is going for her GED. School use to be a lot safer and we should have ZERO tolerence for bullies and other trouble makers. To many of our schools are not enforcing their own dress codes and behavior policies. It's so sad to think that we have to build more jails because we don't stop the violence when it first starts with children. We should not only have rules but enfirce them too.
It would be great if parents would take responsibility for their kids instead of defending them when they are wrong. It also would be good if Department of Family and Children Services would keep their nose out of parents business of using a switch or belt on them. Many of the parents of these young students are into drugs and drinking themselves, therefore, let the kids run wild. I had dreams of my grandsons being abused by their peers. One of my grandsons took karate and my dreams stopped. I highly recommend getting the kids into karate. I have a granddaughter 8 years old who is now being hit, beat and mistreated by bullies in her school. My daughter is taking a warrant against these kids. What a shame that it is necessary to do this but she has talked to the parents and they don't believe it yet the kids come to my daughter's yard and do it. I would tell the school principal and if nothing is done, take a warrant for the school and principal, too. If I were around when these kids came to my granddaughter's home, I personally would take authority and give them a whipping of their lives then I would face the law myself.
We have many laws on the books for everything we as a nation can think of. The liberals in this nation believe that if we past a law it will be fix and go away. Gun Control is a prime example of complete failure. Not one Control law has prevented a crime. As long as we have people who look the other way when bulling takes place, as long as we as a nation continue to mistreat one another because of our looks, behavior, our culture, our believes, sexual perference, we will away continue to hate and other people. Our schools no longer teach respect for one another, respect for our nation, or respect for schools or anything else. Our culter today is more concerned with winning, with getting ahead at any cost, including, walking over people, unethical behavor from all elected officals, judges, lawyers, doctors, insurance companies, congressman, senators, big business, school boards, all put themselves frist over the good of the general population. With there unethical behavior, and by putting themselves ubove everyone thinking that they can do as they please and thing that they are God. Congress and the Senate waste Billions a year in their special pork belly spending projects, that only benefit a few. We we need money to help our own citizens, we have none to give. However, we have billions to give others countries to build armies, give to poor countries that hate us and treat their people like dogs. At one time we took care of our own as a nation. Liberals made sure that it wasn't the case and the trend continues on today. Its about time we as Americans start taking cae of our own people and take care of the world second. Give away surplus to those nations who support us and do away with aid to those who do not and those who hate us. The same bullies who beat, condemn, and have no belief in anything but themselves are the same people who may become our leaders, and oh what a tail they bring to our nation as a whole. Maybe some day we as a nation of the people for the people, by the people, will spring up again; when people get fed up with a system who waste our national resources, who pay the power game, to one that was created by our forefathers, in saying We The People in order. My feelings
Another episode of Public School practices. Teachers and administrators won't do anything about incidences as these because of the liability scare put to them by the school attorneys and the insurance demands. Public Schools are a disgrace to our culture. This is where our taxes go, to back up the demands of school districts that are out of control for their own greed.
To bad more people don't stand up for the "right" things instead of the "poplar" things. God is watching!
I have a seven year old in school and a five year just getting ready to start school. The school they attend says that they have a "NO BULLYING" policy too. I have seen the children that do the bullying get kicked out of school not to return. I have also seen the children kicked off the buses and not allowed to ride again. It helps when the school with this motto puts in to play. With all of the shootings and things going the secretary who heard this was going to happen and did nothing should be fired. She is to be there not just to do her job but to protect our children also. I feel for your grandson and his friend. I was picked on all through school because I was heavy and could not keep up with my classmates in gym. Ten years later I saw these same people and the reason they picked on me I could have reversed the role. I chose not to though because what they did to me made me a better person then them. I am stronger in my life now then half of them. I hope your grandson and his friends can put this behind them and eventually those peolple who teased and taunted them will need thier help, thats when your grandson gets to say how he feels about them. I have been there. The release is great. Know what your going through, PA
When I went to school, years ago, I am 72, there were no bullies, no fights, no drugs etc, and the teachers were great, they helped the students, did not make them feel lower then dirt etc.
This bullying and humiliating of students who aren't jocks, or from super rich families is prevelent in all schools and the teachers and administrators are apathetic about it! They take no action to stop this injustice. They just don't care until tragedy strikes, then they wring their hands and wonder how this could have happened in their school. All the teachers and administrators want are drugged up kids who are zombies. They say, so these kids aren't disruptive in class. Evidence is proving that many of these kids acting up and shooting up their schools are kids taking mind altering drugs for hyperactivity. Parents need to take some control over their children's schools instead of the teachers union having so much clout. A bad teacher should not be able to use tenure to keep teaching if they're not worthy of the task of dealing and teaching our kids!
I am A school bus driver and the abuse I take from students is horrible, they curse and call you names but if we were to say one thing out of place we are removed from our run, and loose our job, but students just get removed for a couple of days then back to abuse again. I think its disgraceful how our schools are run. I am so glad my children are now grown up and have got out of this racket, but now I have a grandson that is soon going to attend a school and oh my dear how I am just going to have to pray for this little man and for his survival. I don't believe nothing will ever change until they allow God back in to our schools. With God just looking in and not allowed to be in control our schools will remain a total disaster. Another point most of the control has been removed from principals, teachers and bus drivers and now students no they can't be touched and they don't have to listen or they lay charges and call prejudice. I really believe that the two most important things is God allowed back in the Schools and some control given back to the ones in charge of our Schools and until this is done the bulling etc. will continue. May God Bless and lets all pray for God to be put back in to the Schools and and the control given back to Teachers, Principals etc.
I am 72 years old, when I was going to school, there were no bullies, no fights, no drugs etc. The teachers were great and cared for the students. I think that these days, there are too many latch-key children, too many empty houses when they went home. Years ago, you managed on one salary, one car and the moms stayed home.now there is no discipline in the home,too much free time, too much freedum. parents should pay more attention, but I guess a lot of them just do not care.
My son was also picked on in high school. Can you believe, by the assistant principal? He wanted to play basketball so much that he bought all the things he needed (socks, shorts, shirt and shoes) only to be told after practicing that he wasn't good enough and a teachers son who was even worse in playing got to be picked to play. That surely hurt so bad. Anyway to make a long story short, He dropped out of school at 16 yrs. old and took some home study courses and now runs his own construction business and does very well. It seems like we need more caring teachers in the school and we certainly need God back in our schools. I pray for our young people all the time. I don't know what the answer is, but we need to seek God's face for our every need. Yours in Christ. God bless.
I certainly feel for you and those children. Unfortunately many adults don't know what to do about this situation that is getting worse all the time. Dr. Phil McGraw has a website with info on how to deal with this very issue. He has started a campaign against bullies. He has offered help and a program for schools to implement. I encourage anyone interested to go to his website and investigate his program. The address is simply drphil.com
I am so tired of editorials like this. The writer has told us nothing about either side.She seems to feel that her grandson and his friends are so nice and so right and that any one that thinks them strange must be wrong. She has also said nothing about the bullies except that they are jocks. What does that word mean? Are they athletes who are cruel? Are they boys out for sports that have little or no skill? are thec car club types that drive hotrods around or motorcycles? Are they girls that are big and strong that are athletes? Well I could go on but I think you get the picture. No one is helped when we use steriotypes like she has and no one is helped when we print their frustations. I am a 66 year old man who was an athlete all through high school and college. I became a coach and teacher and later in my career an administrator of a school district. Never in my life have I done or allowed to have done anything that resembles what she describes. Does it happen? Absolutly yes! Is it the rule? Absolutely not! Her situation is probably true, but it cannot be generalized as to be true every where. It should be stopped right now , but whinning and then printing that message won't help. She and her family need to confront the school district and demand an accounting. If she has done that with out change, then she needs to do it again and again until there is change. I sympthize with her problem, but do something about it. She has already found out that sitting on the pitty pot won't help. M.B.
In our public schools it seems it is more the teachers that are "bullies" than the other students. We had two grandsons drop out. One we had home schooled for a year until he entered High School, where the new principal worked with him. Until the adults become dedicated instructors and teachers it will not be corected. Ruth Colorado
FEAR THE MOST STABALIZING FACTOR IN ANY SOCIETY The most asked question today is what has gone wrong in our society. The answer can be given in three words, "THE LACK OF FEAR". How and by what logic have I arrived at this conclusion? It was by simply reviewing my childhood years, 1921-1938. In retrospect, I realize that it was pure unadulterated fear of God, parents, teachers, police and other authority figures. To this date I can remember, with love and respect, the many "tough love" lessons imparted to me by my parents, relatives, teachers and others.I was taught obedience without question, the difference between right and wrong, good manners, civil behavoir, respect for adults and authority figures, not to cry, whine and lastly not to lie, cheat or steal. Above, I used the term "tough love" to emphasize that the imposition of discipline upon a child is not done out of cruelty, but out of love. Without discipline none of the rules for the conduct of civil society can maintained. Civilization is a thin veneer that seperates us from the jungle and that it can't be maintained without discipline
#1 Concerned parents and grandmas might try getting together and putting pressure on the schoolboard to correct this problem. #2 How about a group of concerned parents, etc. hiring an attorny to bring suit against the school(don't know if it can be done, but find out)? #3 Call the situation to the attention of the newspapers; unfavorable publicity has aquelched the further development of many problems. #4 Call a meeting of parents and ask them to keep their children home in protest,a boycott in other words, until the problem is corrected. It is up to the school staff to discipline and protect all students and if students can't be disciplined to expell them. #5 A suit could also be brought against any student, or group of students' parents whose child wilfully caused bodily injury to another student. As far as I know it's still illegal to attack someone with the intent to injure them, call the police and report the incident. Where are the days when girls couldn't even commeit the heinous crime of wearing a pair of pants to school and all students, boys and girls, were required to act with civility in class and on the grounds---not even chewing gum or being a bit boistrous? If our children are not taught to be considerate and law abiding we will reap the whirlwind! They are the future administrators; governors, mayors, police, teachers and parents of our country's people. How will they treat the older generation, kill us all off maybe, euthanasia of all unwanted elderly? God help us all! Doesn't that worry all you teachers and parents out there?
Thanks for letting us voice our opinion.I have a nine year old son that is having the same problem and what do i do to easy the pain that kids cause by their ugly words. He is over weight and takes alot of abuse about it. How do i as a mother that grew up with the same pain explain to him? His teachers and the school are no help.People don't understand that this is a big problem,that starts as soon as they start to school,not one that just start as teenagers.
I NOT VERY SMART ON THIS SUBJECT BUT FEEL THERE SURE BE STRICTR RULES ON STUDENTS. BUT BE WILLING TO HELP THEM AT ALL TIMES. THEY NEED MORE LOVE AS THEY PROBABLY NOT GETTING THIS AT HOME. THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT IN EVERYBODY LIFE ALSO, MAYBE GROUP CLASSES AND LET THE KIDS RUN THE FORUM IN THEIR OWN MATTER AND I AM SURE THEY WILL SOLVE THE PRPOBLEMS. THANK YOU AARON J KREMER E-MAIL ---firstname.lastname@example.org
this could have come from me my grandson is now in a GED program due to bullying at his school and yes he dresses different and not in the "preppy" style as he calls it and yes he has been in an institution due to the fact he was a threat to himself he is much better now he was in a deep depression and medication has helped that his mother said when he got into the GED program it was like a heavy,heavy load was lifted off him he was more like himself and yes the school said we have a zero tolerance of bullying at this school but no that is not true we tried to work with the school but really got not a lot of cooperation that was doing anything to stop the bullying i do worry about so many of the children these days they have to deal with so much i ask that everyone keep my grandson and all the youth in their prayers they need all the support they can get and God will be there to support them when family cannot be God bless all
I NOT VERY SMART ON THIS SUBJECT BUT FEEL THERE SURE BE STRICTR RULES ON STUDENTS. BUT BE WILLING TO HELP THEM AT ALL TIMES. THEY NEED MORE LOVE AS THEY PROBABLY NOT GETTING THIS AT HOME. THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT IN EVERYBODY LIFE ALSO, MAYBE GROUP CLASSES AND LET THE KIDS RUN THE FORUM IN THEIR OWN MATTER AND I AM SURE THEY WILL SOLVE THE PRPOBLEMS. THANK YOU AARON J KREMER E-MAIL ---email@example.com
I TO HAD A SON THAT WAS BULLIED AT SCHOOL, THEY EVEN MADE HIM GIVE THEM HIS LUNCH MONY EVERY DAY! WHEN I NOTICED HE WAS ALWAYS HUNGRY WHEN HE GOT HOME FROM SCHOOL, I ASKED WHAT HE HAD FOR LUNCH? HE TOLD ME HE DIDN'T HAVE LUNCH! I SAID WHY? HE FINALLY TOLD ME WHAT HAS BEEN HAPPENING I WAS SO MAD! THAT I WENT TO THE SCHOOL AND TALKED TO THE ASST. PRINCPLE, WHO HANDLES THE BEHAVOR PROBLEMS. TOLD HIM WHAT WAS HAPPINING AND HE HAD THE THREE BOYS COME TO HIS OFFICE. I SAW WHO THEY WERE AND KNEW THEIR MOM, AT LEAST TWO OF THEM. I TOLD THEM IF I EVER HEAR OF THEM DOING THIS AGAIN I WILL PRESS CHARGES, AND TELL THEIR PARENTS. I ALSO TOLD THEM IF I SEE ANY CUTS OR BRUSIES ON MY SON I WILL COME AFTER THEM MYSELF!! EVEN IF THEY DIDN'T DO IT! IT NEVER HAPPENED AGAIN! THAT WAS IN JR. HIGH.
Iam raising my grandson's for now at least and I know what you feel. The difference being it is 2 teacher's that seem to harrass mine. They came in the system in Oct. and they didn't know how to catch them up. So everytime they go to school one or both are sent to the principle for talking or being late. I ask you how can that be. They are always at school on time. I personally think something should be done about teac- hers who BULLY. This is a small school and there is no need in that. They think they have climbed a social ladder and there is no such thing in this town. I say do away with tenyer and see how fast they try to teach better. They did my daughter the same way and when she was out of school I found out it was because she was so pretty and and liked nothing more than making friends. Thank You for the time.
this matter of bullies in school was discuss on the Dr.Phil tv show last month (3:pm cst) on NBC. Information on how they were trying to solve the problem can be found by contacting their web site. I think it is MSNBC/DrPhil.com. Yes, something has to be done to make those bullies learn compashion and respect for others peoples feelings. They seem to think it is fun to teas and torment others until it happends to them.
I have to agree with this Grandmother as I my self am a Grandma by 7. I would not only go to the school board and raise a lot of ---- but I would also go to the police and ask for for help and if they are all unwilling to help, then, pull your kids from that school and home school them. There is nothing wrong with being different but there is something wrong with tolerance. We should not have to tolerate this kind of behavier and 1 more thing I would go to the PARENTS of these young hoodlems and let them know you are no longer going to put up with such rude,intolerable and offenceive behavior. You will see to it something is done, or you will go to the Govenor of your state and ask himor her for help. And ubove all else Give it to God and see what can happen when He becomes involved. A Grandmother From Nebraska
We took the "Strap" away(Not me)from the Parents and the Teachers,and therefore suffer the Consequenes.We are the adults and try to teach what is wrong and what is right.When the children are small they do not know the difference and from our experience.We as Parents and teachers are trying to prepare them for adulthood and sometimes we have to enforce our guidence. Father of four children
Praise the Lord, some one is doing something about this problem, PRAYING. My 7 year old grandson is called a Nurd be cause he gets staight A's and is 2years ahead of his classmates. Wake up People before we have more shootings in the schools. This grandma prays for all eleven of her grandchildren. Stop these people wanting to stop punishing those for miss behaveing. Nana of 11 honor roll students.
NO school (I worked in a school) likes BAD publicity. I suggest you go to the TV stations and the paper to tell what is going on and how the PRINCIPAL is doing nothing about the situation. Before you do the above, there is power in a group - get a group of people who feel the same way you do and go to the superintendent and the school board and complain.
I feel we are now living in a world that the children of some are allowed to do any- thing they want to, and there are parents who do not believe in correcting there children and do not teach them to have respect for others. If you don't belong to the IN crowd, like dress the way they do or not have the morals of a dog,(like alot of them do) then they harass you. But I blame the parents of these juvenile deliquents and they should be horse whipped for not teaching them to treat other people they way they want to be treated. I feel sorry for kids who just want to be left alone and trying to get through school and the IN kids will not leave them alone,and make life miserable, I think its time our teachers,school officials and so on take a stand and to quit being afraid of parents and the school board and stand up for whats right. And put prayer back in our schools and it is about time with stand up for our rights, the only one that has rights it seems like, is the one's that hollow the loudest.Dolores Richardson, Silver City, NM GOD BLESS AMERICA
I agree with grandma. If you are a good moral person, you are looked upon as an outcast. Don't we know that We are going to be judged ,by God , by our actions. The reasion nothing is being done about this outlandish behavior in school is because the teachers are usually one of the people, without any morals and will not take up for any one who tries to live the upright moral life. If you are not into sex, drinking,smoking cigerates and drugs you just do not fit it. I would love to see people who are not ashamed to stand up for God's moral teachings. We have so many children now who do not even know who their father are it is a pityful shame and disgrace to God's race.
Unfortunately this problem is neither new nor unique. Back in the early 80's our son was given a 6 Saturday in-school suspension for fighting. He was walking down the hall when someone grabbed his books and the school bully punched him in the nose. He was a wrestler, so he picked up the bully and dumped him in the trash can. When our son told us he was suspended, we called the school principal. He did not even know our son had a bloody broken nose from the attack. He admitted that he had been told it was planned beforehand, and that the bully had done this to several other students while teachers watched. The principal's advice was to "fight somewhere outside the school." He refused to ease the suspension until my husband told him that he would serve the Saturdays with our son - and by the way, the media will be there. Of course, the principal thought that we were the bullies - but he did change his mind and gave our son after school detention. We later found out that the parents of the bully were well known to our local police - they had tried to file lawsuits against the parents of other kids who were attacked by their son. Our son is now a USAF Base Commander - we don't know what happened to the bully. Two years after our son was attacked, I ran for the Board of Education and served four years. They were long, hard years but I think we helped other kids from being victims. The bullies rely on each other and the silence of the kids and the families they attack. We found out that the teachers were afraid to punish these kids because the bullies knew where they lived and would cause problems for them. This school district is in an affluent suburb - the kind of place where people would like to ignore the problems in their community. Kids today have so much to deal with - they shouldn't have to face fear in the hallways of their schools.
When we took God out of our Country and out of our schools we asked for trouble. Just because a few people feel uncomfortable with the idea of prayer do we all have to be denied it? The same goes for the Golden Rule, the Ten Commandments, good old-fashioned discipline. Parents need to take control; take responsibility for their children; take time to set a good example. The same goes for teachers and school systems. A former teacher of 50 years.
I believe our schools began to have problems when the Federal Government came in and REMOVE THE BIBLE AND PRAYER from the classroom. My children were brought up in a school system so different from today's school system. They had several teachers that would always open the day with prayer, pray when they would go to lunch and in general try to shepherd the children and give them some sense of Jesus Christ in their lives. Some of the parents objected to having prayer in school, so the teacher would remove that child from the class and when praying was over, they were allowed back in class. Glad to say that some of these students soon changed their attitude about prayer. I think that we as parents need to get together and have a school board that believes in Jesus Christ and get prayer and God back in the school. This is when all the troubles started. Good luck with your grandson and tell him to keep on keeping on. Just trust Jesus and He will take care of the rest. Nancy C.
Well! I could wrote a book about this but I'll try not to do that. Our loveable and, now-proven, super intelligent grandson was always getting into trouble at school. My husband said from the 3rd or 4th grade that he was not being academically challenged. After attending our granddaughter's high school graduation and seeing the Board of Education and the Superintendent of Schools in plaid sport shirts (no ties or jackets) and listening to the superintendent 'murder the King's language', we knew DH was right. Our son attempted to run for School Board but lived one block outside the city limits and was not eligible even though his professional office was downtown and he did pay city taxes. DUH! When the granddaughter showed her father her diploma, he replied, "You have a piece of paper but you didn't get the education to do what you want to do in life." How right he was, so she spent the next 2 years in college trying to fill in the gaps so to speak. 5 years later, she is working toward a Doctorate. NOW, back to my grandson. DH always managed to give an annual "Now take all the science and mathematics you can get" speech. After the 9th grade, when he added "Especially Physics" our grandson said "G'andaddy, our school doesn't teach Physics." "G'andaddy" was livid and told our son to get him out of that school system. Son replied, "Dad, I can't just pull up and move and start from scratch somewhere else. So, boarding schools were discussed and research by all of us for 2 weeks (Mom was reluctant but faced reality and the fact that G'andaddy had been a high school teacher in earlier years)before Grandson (whose IQ,BTW, tested extremely high) was asked, "Do you want to stay here and get a mediocre education or go away and be the best you can be?" He lost no time in say, "Dad, I want to go BUT can I choose?" He chose an Eastern school almost 2000 miles from home. We thank God that our son was financially able to send him. Not only did he make straight A's while there, he "ran off and left the rest of us in Algebra and is getting 1 on 1 instruction" according to his roommate. Hmmmmmmm? Or is this because he needs extra tutoring, I thought. When he graduated, the MathMaster told us he was the best mathematics student he had ever had. I'm happy to say that when he entered the state university in his home state (1000 miles from us)he 'tested out' of all algebra courses and beginning Calculus. His classmates in this are juniors and seniors. When I asked if it wasn't frightening to be in the class with all upper classmen, he said, "Noooo! It's nice to know that I'm where it took them 2 and 3 years to get there." Now, I know that sending a child away from home is not the REAL answer to this problem - it is often NOT the other students who are the bullies, etc. but the TEACHERS (yes, it is!!) that are NOT as intelligent as the student and not well-educated enough to give them an academic challenge - therefore boredom sets in. Look into not only the teachers' but the school administrator's qualifications. Get on that school board and find out where the appropriated monies are going. Certainly not to teacher's salaries and my dears, you get what you pay for most (not all) of the time. Best wishes!
Sorry, the word "wrote" should have been "write". I can spell but just didn't take time to proof-read. Forgive?
To Grandma and All who read this. I certainly agree with all that Grandma said. I am 70 years old and am not a grandma. Unfortunately God did not bless my husband and I with children. I did help take care of a younger brother and several nieces and nephews, So I do know a little bit about children. Things were not like this in the schools that I went to. I am sure there were isolated incidents but I never knew of any in grade school, Junior High School and Senior High School. Next to God and my parents my teachers were at the top of the ladder. They were treated with respect and in turn we were treated with respect. We were in school to learn and that we did. Something must be done about these terrible things that are happening in our schools now. I do believe discipline should be taught at home, but today so many parents both work and children come home to an empty house. I believe certain rights must be given to the teachers and principals to apply some type of punishment to these bullies if the parents cannot handle them or if the parents refuse to cooperate. Maybe not corporate punishment ie; whipping, beating and physical punishment. I do not know what to suggest but something must be done and NOW. Thank you for letting me speak my peace. DTucker@aol.com
Dear Grandma, Unfortunately what you have said in this e-mail is present daily in today's world. Is it because of the "legal" consequences bestowed on those who choose to become involved? I don't know. I do know that we are all here in God's world to protect, guard, support, encourage and love one another. Maybe we shouldn't be asking ourselves the famous question WWJD (What Would Jesus Do) but rather WWJHUS "What would Jesus Have Us do??" We need to stick together, get involved and help one another before something bad happens regardless of the risks involved. After all Christ risked his LIFE so that we may ALL be saved! Gamma P
And I'm Sorry to say it NEVER Will! :-( I too was Tormented & Harassed by the whole school from 4th grade,right through Graduating the 12th! NOTHING was ever done, to Make Matters Worse,I lived in a Foster Home(from age 4-18) where it was soooooooo Much Worse, that going to school,was Heaven,in spite of all the Harassment! What has it all left me??? That I Know I am NO Good, I am Ugly!! and I Hate Myself, Just as I was Taught to!!!I tried suicide from the age 5 thri 16, I would take a mess of Nerve pills(yes at 5 I was on nerve pills!) and go Hide, I was always found & Beat to an inch of my death! NOONE at school Knew my Homelife, and Noone at Home knew what happened at school, if they knew at home, about beeing Harrassed and Bullied at school, I would have been told I dserved it & then been beaten!! So I Knew to kep quiet!! it is terrible these things happen, but they do and Always will! :-(
I am a grandmother who works in a public school. I have raised 7 children and have 10 grandchildren, 2 of these grandchildren I am raising. We have just under gone a major change to stop "Bullying" in this District. It is long past time that everyone adopt a zero tolerance policy concerning "Bullying"
The original letter was terribly sad, but the last letter from the person who was bullied at school and beaten in their foster home was perhaps the saddest letter I have ever read. This may sound like a cliche, but coming from a home where my mother had a collection of weapons to hit me, like bamboo canes, shoe trees, walking sticks and the like, I know I deserved some of the correction because I lied and stole things. So any attention was better than none. I was chased home from school by the other kids when I was 7 yrs old and that felt aweful. This was in the war in England and there were bombs dropping around us too. Sounds like a bad deal, but I was never afraid and knew that God loved me and was there all the time. I needed correction and when I became a Christian I forgave my mother and she knew it. She was doing the best she knew how to do, as she came from a big family with 14 brothers and sisters, and it seems there was no time for love and cuddles, so I had none passed on to me, just discipline. I forgave the bullies too and would never be one myself. This sort of abuse needs to be reported as others have suggested, not only to the Principle, but the school board. Maybe there's a T.V. 'Problem Solvers' in your area. Dr. Phil touched on it and made some aware of the problem, but it needs intense scutiny and a solution. I agree that mothers and fathers need to be aware, by talking and communicating with their children and the schools. Bullying is a dreadful situation which can damage a child forever if he isn't taught forgiveness and restoration, personal worth and God's love. I will be praying for all of those in this column who need the peace of the Lord, healing and a solution. God Bless you all. VJW
The trouble is we don't have the right to correct the children the way we were when we were in school. If a teacher punished you the parents would back them. NOT now. We should go back to some of the old ways. Make everyone mind, no matter what color they are or who they are. I have 4 in scool and thank GOD their parents do talk to the teachers if there is any problems and don't take te word of their kids as law. We have to bring God back into our schools. A Very conserned Grandmother
Dear concerned Grandma, I too am extremely concerned and just recently allowed my 15 year old son the opportunity to move to another state to get away from school violence. I hate not having my son in school, but he too was being harassed because he stood up for his faith and met at the pole each morning before school. The gangs don't appreciate such a display and made sure he knew it. He stayed for an enitre semester and tried to talk his way out of fights with no help what-so-ever from the administration or staff members at school. It finally got to the point where words would no longer surfice and violence was the only way the gang members were willing to deal with the Christian kids. My son, choose not to fight because our schools have the "zero tolerance" as well and that means that he too would be expelled and ruin all chance of a college scholorship even though he didn't start the fight, In Florida if you are so many feet within a fight when it is taking place you are involved. And if they gang members provoked a fight with my son and forced him to defend himself, it wouldn't matter, he would have still been expelled, that is the way the system works with the zero tolerance policy. Soooo my son felt that in order to continue on his path of education he needed to go to a better school where educators cared about educating kids. He moved to another state and is living with his God parents during the school year and attending a school where he states there is a huge difference in the attitudes of the staff. He says they "genuinely care about us Mom, and it is obvious that they want each one of us to succeed in life" . So there is hope...find a school that does care, even if it means that you have to sacrifice your own happiness for a short amount of time to make sure your child gets that education. There are good schools out there, you just have to look for them. If all parents refused to tolerate this unexeptable behaviour and took out their children from these schools, sooner or later the systems would get the message and would have no choice but to change...remember parents - they get their fundings according to the number of children that attend!!!!! I know what some of you are thinking...I am not going to allow my child to go live with someone else....I thought that first as well, but my child became so depressed over the situation that a doctor told me that I had two choices...remove my child from the situation or take a chance that one day he decide to remove himself,and the trouble with that is that teens often decide to do it permenantly. That hit hard!!!! I would much rather not have my child in my home for the school year than to lose him forever. And when my child is surronded by gangs or violence, aren't I taking the chance of losing him during the school day anyway??? I pray that whoever reads this has read it for a reason and that maybe it helps someone. I can tell you that I know if you are in the same situation, it is not easy. find someone to pray with and ask them to continue to pray even when they are not with you. God Bless. Another concerned parent & grandparent.
Oh how I wish I would have taken action against bullying when my daughter was in Jr. High School! But she wouldn't allow me to cause any more "trouble" for her. It got so bad, I had to move out of the state to give her a fresh start, but hindsight tells me it was already too late. On Mother's Day, I will be reliving the most horrible day of my life, when I found my daughter dead in her bedroom! She had taken her life by overdowing on perscription drugs. Four years have passed since then, but the horrow is always with me, and reading Grandma's letter gave me a wake- up call. Bullying must be stopped! We never know the consequences until it is too late.
Hello.. My daughter went through the samething in school 20 yrs so it is not a new problem.She totally ignored the so called "JOCKS".If they teased her to much she reported it and back then they did something about it.Today..i think alot of teachers are AFRAID of the children.Or "well" that is the Bank's Presidents's son..we cannot do anything to him.BULL!!! I do not care who the child is..if they did wrong they should be punished just as everyone else should.Good Luck..I hope you can find a way to do something... GOD BLESS
My daughter was so harassed at school because shw was very pretty that she ended up leaving school when her car was messed with and she was ganged up on and hit. She hit back and got in trouble. She got her GED and became a medic. this is not unusual
This is not unusual. My daughter was ganged up on because she is beautiful, left school, got ged became a medic. married a trooper has a fine life.
Am with the Grandma all the way !!!Am grandma too .We let one woman kick GOD OUT of our schools Our very nation is threatened of getting all we stand for & our ancesters fought for disregarded as nonscense!!! What do you expect of our children ?? We are takeing away the everything good & decient in our country to satify a few who could care less just want to see their kind of justice at the price of everyone else !!! GOD FORGIVE & PROTECT THE GOOD OLE U.S.A. Carol Reed
Well, the first thing to do is put prayer and God back in our schools,don't let teachers be teachers if they don't believe in God, for without Him we are and can do nothing, just keep on keeping on for Jesus Christ and pray that His will, will be done in these situations..
I, being a Grandmother also, have the same concerns. Luckily none of my Grandchildren have been bothered in such a way. Maybe our schools are not as bad as the one she speaks of, but after driving a school bus for 15 years, I have a large concern for the children in school today. There is a lot of bullying going on, and not much being done about it. Many times when the drivers report things to Principles or Councelors, the report they get back is "They said they didn't do it." Well, as the kids say "Dud" what did you think they were going to say. the general public would not believe what their own children do and say on the buses. And they would sent their kids to school in a cab if they knew what their kids are exposed to on the buses. I drove one route where the boss finially told me don't ask for help from the police for fighting any more, just get them home and get them off the bus. This is just a mid-west town of about 30,000 people. I was a grandmother when I started driving and was shocked to see what was going on in the schools.
DON,T KNOW HOW TO DO IT BUT THIS NEEDS TO BE SENT TO OUR PRESIDENT ,CONGRESS,SENATE& EVERYONE ELSE IN CONTROL OF THE U.S.A. ALL COMMENTS PRESENTED BY THE GRANDMAS OUT THERE !!! NOW !!!
I too am a grandmother of 12 and I worry about them all the time. I can only suggest to everyone that we turn this whole situation over to our Holy God. We should pray for them constantly and believe that God will watch over them and keep them safe. Of course, things will happen, but when we turn our young ones over to His gentle care, we can rest in peacae, knowing that He WILL care for them. god bless them all. Jo ann
SOMETIMES KIDS ONLY DO WHAT THEY ARE TAUGHT. IF THEY ARE TAUGHT THAT IT IS OKAY TO BEAT UP ON SOMEONE ELSE IF THEY DON'T GET THEIR WAY AND SOMETIMES THEY ARE VICTIMS THEMSELVES AND THE ONLY WAY THEY CAN SHOW IT IS TO DO THE SAME THING TO SOMEONE ELSE. EACH CASE IS DIFFERENT. BUT THEY ALSO NEED TO LEARN THAT IT IS NOT OKAY TO BEAT UP ON ANOTHER PERSON. THERE IS HELP OUT THERE, THEY JUST NEED TO FIND IT.
I really think parents don't have time to raise children and they let them raise themselves if you know what I mean. The good Godly parents who try to teach their children well these children suffer because of the bad parents. My heart goes out to these children and their parents. My sons are grown now and I thank God for that but I have grandchildren who will have to deal with this if the Lord tarries. I have taught my sons never to make fun of anyone and that everyone is equal in God's eyes. I hope and pray they will raise my grandchildren the same. Parents don't care what their children do as long as they stay out of their way. I personally know a lady who started her daughter on the birth control shot when she was 13!!!!! She is a Sunday School teacher what has our so-called christain parents turned into. Not ChristLike christain. Her excuse was she did not want her to get with child well teach her the right way and she won't!!!!! I pray for these kinds of people myself but this is just satan trying everyway to make more fall from Grace. DJK
I AM ALSO A VERY ACTIVE GRANDMOTHER, AND TO MY SURPIRSE I HAVE FOUND OUT IN JUNIOR HIGH THAT A LOT OF THE CHILDREN DO NOT SAY THE PLEDGE OR BELIEVE IN GOD...AT MY HOUSE WITH SPEND THE NIGHT PARTIES ON SAT. NIGHT I WILL TAKE THEM TO THE MOVIES , GO FOR PIZZA ETC AND I LIVE ON A FARM AND LET THEM COME HOME AND GET IN THE HOT TUB AND RIDE FOUR WHEELERS....BUT I DO EXPECT THEM TO GO TO CHURCH WITH ME ON SUNDAY AND THIS WEEDS A LOT OF THE CHILDREN OUT....I WILL NEVER FORGET THE FIRST TIME ONE TOLD ME SHE DID NOT BELIEVE IN SAYING THE PLEDGE, OR GO TO CHURCH...I HAD HER AS A GUEST MY GRANDDAUGHTER 14 SUGGESTED WE HAVE OVER FOR A SPEND THE NIGHT AND GO TO NEWNAN GEORGIA AND HAVE DINNER AND GO TO THE MOVIES...AS WE WERE LEAVING OUR FAVORITE PLACE WE LIKED TO EAT THIS YOUNG LADY AS OUR GUEST, SPOKE UP AND SAID I DO NOT SAY THE PLEGE, OR DO I GO TO CHURCH...WELL, I FELT LIKE OPENING THE DOOR AND SAY CALL YOUR MOTHER TO PICK YOU UP HERE...THEN MY GRANDDAUGHTRER SAID VERY QUICK, BECAUSE SHE KNEW I WOULD NOT AGREE WITH WHAT I HAD BEEN TOLD BY HER FRIEND...AND SHE DID NOT KNOW HOW I WOULD HANDLE THE SITUATION...I DID WELL, I CLOSED MY MOUTH AND PRAYED, GIVE ME WISDOM TO SAY THE RIGHT THING...SO WE WENT TO THE MOVIES, THEN AFTER THE MOVIES WE WENT TO GET TAKE HOME PIZZA, AND THE YOUNG LADY TOLD ME THAT THEY DID NOT HAVE A PIZZA PLACE DOWN THE ROAD I WAS TRAVELING...AND I TOLD HER I THINK SO...AS I HAD SAT IN THE MOVIES AND PRAYED ALL DURING THE MOVIE FOR WISDOM TO SPEAK TO THE GIRL, WE ORDERED THE TAKE HOME....AND IT WAS IN A VERY EXP. HOME AREA, HOMES 550,000 TO 850,000 EACH...ON THE WAY OUT SHE SAID SOME DAY I AM GOING TO HAVE A HOME LIKE THESE....AND IT OPEN THE DOOR FOR ME...THANK GOD...I SAID WELL, YOU MAY HAVE WHAT YOU WANT IN LIFE IF YOU KEEP YOUR LIFE IN ORDER....AND AS YOU ARE SO SMART AND KNOW ALL THE RIGHT THINGS TO DO IN LIFE, MY LIFE IS A LITTLE DIFFERENT THAN YOURS, I THANK GOD THAT WHEN I TOOK YOU TO EAT ON THE MONEY I PAID FOR YOUR FOOD AND OUR FOOD THAT I AM VERY THANKFUL I WORKED AND MADE IT, AND PROUD TO PAY WITH THE MONEY THAT SAID IN GOD WE TRUST...WHEN I PRUCHASED THE TICKETS FOR THE MOVIES, ON THE MONEY I HAD WORKED FOR , IT SAID IN GOD WE TRUST, WHEN I PURCHASED POP CORN, ON THE MONEY I HAD WORKED FOR IT SAID IN GOD WE TRUST, THEN WHEN I PAID FOR THE PIZZA IT SAID IN GOD WE TRUST....AND I DO TRUST GOD AND HE IS MY FIRST THING IN LIFE, AND HE HAS ALWAYS BEEN GOOD TO ME AND I APPRECIATE HIM SO MUCH, I HAVE A GOOD BUS. AND I REPO AND RESALE 18 WHEELERS AND I HAVE RAISED TWO GIRLS, AND I HAVE 3 GRANDCHILDREN AND ALWAYS HAVE TIME FOR THEM, AND ALWAYS HAD TIME FOR GOD, AND I AM SO THANKFUL I HAVE MY LIFE TOGETHER BECAUSE I WOULD HAVE NOT MET YOU THIS AFTERNOON....SHE DID NOT KNOW WHAT TO SAY AND SHE HAS NOT BEEN BACK....BUT SHE IS STILL IN MY PRAYERS...I KNOW THAT FEELING....AND I WORK IN A MANS WORLD AND THAT HAS BEEN =THE BIG SHOCKER OF LIFE FOR ME....I WAS FIRST LADY IN TRUCK LEASE MGT. AND FIRST TO OWN COMPANY OF REPO EQUIP. AND I AM A LADY IN THE MANS WORLD BUT NEVER WAS SO SHOCKED AS THIS YOUNG LADY SHOCKED ME...THANKS FOR LETTING ME SHARE THIS STORY WITH YOU...ANN LONG ANN S TRAILER EQUIPMENT SALES,,,,,GRANTVILLE, GEORGIA WHERE IT IS WARM ...COME ON SOUTH WE WOULD LOVE TO HAVE YOU...BLESSINGS TO ALL ANN
Why does no one identify the school they are so unhappy with? The son of a friend of mine was diagnosed with ADHD from the time he was 3 years old. When he reached high school age he began attending school in the small town of Tenino, Washington. In his sophomore year, he made the wrestling team. The other members of the team resented him because he was not a "child" who had grown up in this little town and therefore was an outsider. After wrestling practice, the team would go to the showers. At this time the "jocks" knocked him down and urinated on him as well as other things. We don't know how often this happened but finally my friend's son came home crying and told all. When this was reported to the principal and the school board it was all pooh-poohed. The teens who had committed the crime were the sports jocks of the school and were not to be reprimanded. "It's too bad that this happened." I believe the person who wrote saying that the adults are afraid of the students hit the nail on the head. Parents no longer teach respect for others in the home. We can't expect the school system to train our children. By the time they start school they should already know right from wrong. After hearing the background of the young who did the killing in Columbine, I thought to myself, there goes my friend's son. They bullying has got to stop. If it doesn't God help us all.
Grandma, tell your grandson to hold his head up high!! He only has to hold the truth in his heart and is so much bettter than the trouble makers!! I have driven schoolbus for 14 yrs and have heard & seen soo much that it makes me sick--but I have also reminded the bad kids that I don't have to deal with them--they have to deal with the authorites!! That does help to an extent--- God Bless you and I will pray for you and yours!!
I Agree With The First Comment..I Do Believe The Teachers Have A Lot Of Fear Or Reprisals From Students If Disipline Is Done To Them..So Many Of Them Have No Morals At All, So Therefore There Is No Fear In Their Hearts...Just Look At The Prisons...So Many Young People..I Just Went To A Sentencing Last Week, And Witnessed A Young Boy Get A Life Sentence W/Out The Possibility Of Parole, For Murdering A Young Woman..This Was The Only Child Of One Of My Best Friends..He Was Just A Bit Over 14 Years Old..THat Was Over 2 Years Ago..Hes Now 16 And Will Spend The Rest Of His Miserable Life Behind Bars..Ordinarily, I Would Have Compassion For A Kid That Age, But He Was Always In Trouble, He Was His Own Person, No One Could Or Was Going To Tell Him What To Do, Including His Parents..He Had 3 Other Kids With Him At The Time Of The Killing..He Was In And Out Of Juvenule Courts 5 Different Times..And What An Air He Had About Him..Like * I Got My Rights* Kind Of Attitude..Well, Thank God, He's Going To Have A Long Time To Think About What His Rights Were, The Night He Took An Innocent Life, That Has A Little Boy To Take Care Of..There Are 2 Other Boys That Will Get Their Day In Court Too, But As Of Now, No Date Set..Sry For Such A Long Comment...God Bless
Dr. Phil had a wonderful show on Bullies. He is so against this. Hope his show did a lot of good. He said anyone---Parents---Teachers--Classmates--that tolerate this is just as bad as the Bullies.
GOD has got to be allowed back into OUR schools!! WE the people pay taxes for these schools, and elect the school boards to run them. I say-- NO MORE FREE PASSES!!! If these elected board members refuse to accept THEIR responsibility for the existing conditions in OUR schools--and we all know what's happening to OUR public schools- then vote them out of office the very next election. Start NOW!!! Start "screening" new bord members. Determine their competence, and most important, question their belief in GOD!! Nothing less is acceptable. Also, the COURAGE to stand up to the cursed ACLU!! Run them out of YOUR county, or school district!! NO QUARTER!!! FIX BAYONETS!!!! You will soon realize, if you haven't already, getting GOD and the TEN COMMANDMENTS back into OUR schools is the ONLY WAY!!! GOD BLESS YOU IN ALL THESE ENDEAVORS & GOD BLESS & GUIDE OUR BELOVED COUNTRY & HER LEADERS!! firstname.lastname@example.org Augusta, GA
PRAY, PRAY, PRAY and ask for The Lord God Almighty to intervene. HE will. He promises to fight our battles. The battle is not with flesh and blood. It is the evil powers and principalities of the air. Bind the evil wickedness in Jesus and release the Holy Spirit. Father it is our prayer for your will to be accomplished in this matter. AMEN !!
I know exactly what you are talking about, my grandaughter has sort of the same problem. Her problem is that other girls are jealous of her and so she gets picked on and she gets in trouble if she stands up for her self and the School officals say it's her fault and then she gets sent to another kind of School. There is no fairness even with the school Teachers or principals and even going higher, because going higher makes it worse for my Granddaughter, what has happened to our Schools and children? WHY? The schools have made it so my Granddaughter now has to go to 2 different schools to help her to beable to get her high School Diploma. Why is it that, the victims are punished and not the perpertrators. And she has had home study too and it's not like reg. School where they can really learn and beable to have the fun that you do in School. From a very angry Grandmother
WE all know what is wrong...We have NO DISCIPLINE in the home or the school. Good behavior is taught at a early age ,and examples shown by the parents..Close loving christian habits are a great start .
I'm a concerned Grandma that had a grandson that was bullied and no amount of talking to the parents helped the boy. They believed he had to "face up to reality" and that reality caused him to run away from home, be placed into juvenile detention and finally a military school/detention situation. Unfortunately, by this time there was nothing that anyone could do to help him and as soon as he could do so, he disappeared into the population. Living in senior housing disallowed us to take him in for more than a week or two at a time and that short time didn't seem to help. Our phone calls, our begging for his help did nothing to influence the parents. From a distance of 2000 miles we have had to watch his life become less than normal and finally any contact taken from the family...we do not know his whereabouts this day and the rest of us, his family are grieved and fear he may be dead. All this because the teachers and the parents of this small sized young man did not take his plight seriously or do something about it. S H of Calif.
You can always start a petition signed by the parents of these children and try to have the princible and school board members removed. All parents need to be involved in their children's school. Attend board meetings and let your concerns be heard. It is sad that those who want an education and try are the ones who are ignored by the schools as the school is too busy dealing with and baby sitting the ones who don't want to learn. I hope you are able to do something as all children are entitled to a good education. God Bless you grandma from another grandma
My son went through the same thing when he was in the fifth grade. The kids would make fun of him, and call him names for taking up for a little girl that they was haressing. I didn't find out about it until one day a teacher and his students were standing just outside the door of the school, one of the students ask his teacher if my wife and my son was a queer. It made my wife mad, she told me that night after I gor home from work. The next day I and my wife went to the school and had a talk with the princable of the school, and the teacker. I let them know just how I felt, and that they had better put a stop to it, or I would be back, and they didn't want to see me again , about this subject. I think when this goes on, every one should get involved to get it stoped, or the same things could happen to other schools that happened at Ft Gibson and the other schools where there has been shootings.
The first thing is to ask for the anointing of the holy Spirit then have Him lead you in to all truth, The soon coming of the Lord, in prophecy is a very sure thing. Let the Lord assure your heart and mind that no matter what happens He is still in charge! Remember Jesus said, "to pray always " and it is written that "the Holy spirit prays by my spirit with Groanings that cannot be uttered" Also to Pray once in faith, then remind me saith the Lord of my promises. The witness42
I am so sorry for the children that get harrassed by the bullies and gangs in the schools. My daughter back in the 80's was teased, then I put her in a christian school. Helped a lot. My other daughter in the late 90's was harassed by the gangs and when I went to follow up on the problem, it seemed to only make the problem worse. As the other girl's older brother's gang stepped in and really beat a young 13 year old child up. I reported it to the correct people, and not only did it seem to call an uneasy truce, the family had to move out ofn the neighborhood.
I 100% AGREE THAT SCHOOLS ARE NOT A PLACE FOR OUR CHILDREN TO BE. WE HOME SCHOOLED OUR SON WHEN IT WAS TIME FOR HIM TO START HIGH SCHOOL. IT WAS THE BEST DECISION WE EVER MADE. HE GRADUATED AT 16 WITH HONORS. AND WAS HAPPIER THAN HE HAD EVER BEEN IN PUBLIC SCHOOLS. IT WAS LIVING HELL TO DEAL WITH THE SCHOOL SYSTEM AND THE TEACHERS, STUDENTS AND STAFF. I WOULD HOPE THAT ALL PARENTS WOULD WAKE UP AND HOME SCHOOL ALL THEIR CHILDREN, AND THE HECK WITH THE SYSTEM AND THE BAD STUDENTS THAT HAVE TO BE ENDURED THERE. A PARENT WHO MADE A WISE DECISION HOUSTON, TEXAS
My heart goes out to this G'ma. This is the reason so many people are home schooling. Things will never get better until we get God back in peoples lives. The liberals are running too much in our country. People have no right to complain...if they don't vote. Everyone should vote at election times. Vote for God loving candidates. Many students only heard about God, the Ten Commandments, etc. at school. Not at home. Now, they are not exposed to any faith building principals at all. Instead of people complaining, we need to act on our convictions. Thank you, from a Great-G'ma.
I know that much of this is true; however, I do not believe this was objectively and honestly written. I have taught school for over thirty-five years in various areas, ranging from the very privileged to the inner city underprivileged. I have seen much of this happen, but not with such frequency and absolutely not with the apathy of personnel as presented here. Furthermore, why is so much blame placed on the schools? Whether I taught in a school attended by the rich, or whether I taught in an inner city school, there were always the "good children" and the "bad children." So why do you find both good and bad children in seemingly totally different schools?I say it is the quality of nurturing at home. How can the schools solve problems that are caused by inadequate parents? How can schools change the home environment? I tried very hard always to give my students the very most I could give them, as did the other teachers. Teachers and schools can only do so much. The rest must be done by parents and society as a whole.
I DONT LIKE IT .WHERE ARE THE TEACHERS AT THE TIME ALL THIS IS TAKING PLACE.I NOW I SEE THIS FIGHTING GOING ON IN THE SCHOOL BUSES.ON MY WAY HOME FROM WORK .AND THE DRIVER DONT STOP IT GO ON FOR MILES. IM A GRANDMA TO
This was a very good letter and the problem should be addressed by school administrators. I personally think the problem is discipline. Our teachers, principals are not allowed to discipline the children. They need to learn as we who are older did that certain things are not tolerated under any circumstances and there are consequences to be paid when you cross the line. In other words, draw a line in the sand and say cross this line and pay the consequences. People may say I am old fashioned. Well, duh. Guess what, these things did not go on when I went to school, because, as I just stated, there were severe consequences to pay. What I can't understand is why our parents, teachers and leaders can't look back and see when things began to go so terribly wrong. When we banned God from our schools, we said "Hey Satan, it's okay" you can reign in our schools now and He does except for the kids who know the Lord and practice what they learn in church. I think sometimes we, as Christians, forget how powerful Satan is and we certainly don't need to because evil is so prevalent in this ole world. Forgive this long comment, but I have been desiring to say these things for a long time. Patsy
The problem is that the most of the teachers and Principals and higher, is there to draw a salary instead of caring about the children. To be sure not about their education. Schools have gotten too political to. Go back to the way schools and parents use to work together for the benifit of the kids. A little prayer every day wouldn't hurt the situation either. People of God stand up and take a stand. It is our legal right to not have our rights taken away from our own children. They are our children, not the governments, States or USCLA. God intended us to care and protect our children in the Lord. Another concerned Grandmother.
I wrote this back in July...........I am another concerned grandmother. Maybe if enough of us speak up, something might be done. Thanks, Dorothy DeWitt What Has Happened to America? When I was a child, believing in God and being patriotic were not a question of constitutional rights. It was a way of life. We said the Pledge of Allegience every morning at school and when the National Anthem was played, we always put our hand over our heart. And, there was a sense of pride to be able to say "One nation, under God, indivisible". There was no question. We were one nation that was blessed by a loving God, and we could never be divided again as we were during the Civil War. We were the strongest nation in the world and we were proud to let our "freedom ring". It was known worldwide that there was freedom in America and people of Europe and Asia who had grown up in oppression and poverty, or under Communist Rule, dreamed of the day he or she could escape to America where there was freedom to be an invidual, and freedom to worship God as so many under Communist rule were denied. The immigrants that came to America were allowed to build their own churches to worship Buddha or Islam or whatever "god" they chose to worship because there was freedom of religion as a part of our Constitution of the United States of America. I have always been a firm believer in the old saying "When in Rome, do as the Romans do". If I relocated to a foreign country, I would never dream of trying to change that country's way of life and/or their religious practices. I would adapt to their way of life and learn their language, and I would continue to worship "my" God. If I could find no Christian churches, I would still worhip God in my private moments. I would have my Bible and that would be enough for me if that was all I had. I would not demand that the country I was in change their laws and religious beliefs and practices to accommadate me as a Christian in a non-Christian way of life. And, in light of that, the main thing that upsets me about so many immigrants coming into our country is that according to the "powers that be", we are no longer "one nation, under God" because now there are so many other nationalities and their religions. A few days ago a Federal Judge declared it unconstitutional to say "under God" while saying the Pledge of Allegience. Why is that unconstitutional? His and everyone else's money (including all the people that do not want God's name spoken) proudly displays "In God We Trust". Is it unconstitutional to spend money? The immigrants that have different religious beliefs still spend money that proclaims "In God We Trust". Any oath of office or when you are sworn in to testify in court, you swear to uphold the laws or tell the truth, or whatever, "So help me God". Does that mean our entire way of life must change to wipe God from our lives. And, if that is the case, is that not Communism or something close to it? WAKE UP, AMERICA! We are losing the very things our country and our constitution were founded on. The immigrants that have come to America and have become American citizens have been allowed to build their own churches and worship the way they chose to, but if they are truly embracing the American way of life, they should also accept the laws and the constitutional rights as they were laid out over 200 years ago. Because it was those same laws and rights protected by our constitution that made this the greatest country in the world and the country that so many immigrants came to. I guess, what I really cannot understand is why we, as a proud God loving nation, must change all of our laws and make amendments to our Constitution to accommadate these people that came here to escape the way of life in their own country? I believe that they should acclimate themselves to our way of life instead of forcing our way of life to change to what they ran away from. Prayer in school was banned originally because of one woman that did not believe in God and decided that other athiests should not be subjected to prayer to a God they did not believe was real while they were in school. Maybe not today, but back when Mrs. O'Hare was doing her thing, just how many school age childred were athiest? Very few, if indeed, there were any. Back then, most children were raised with some religious background and if they chose not to believe in God, it was after they were grown and making their own decisions about their lives. Today, there may be more because we have had a couple of generations of children that have grown up undisciplined and "free" to do as they please. Because of that freedom and lack of discipline, we have an overabundance of murderers, rapists, gang members, and other very violent CHILDREN. And, the parents of these violent children are often almost as bad because they were the first ones that the psychologists or whoever, decided it was unhealthy and wrong to spank your child. It has always been wrong to beat and abuse your children, but I firmly believe that a spanking is much more effective than "time out" or some of the other "non-violent" disciplinary measures. I supposed I cannot speak for anyone but myself, but when I was a child, if I did something wrong and got a "healthy" butt spanking, I remembered that and thought twice about doing the same thing a second time. Today, children don't care, because what is so bad about sitting quietly for a few minutes? There is nothing "painful", for lack of a better word, that makes them remember the wrong that got them in time out in the first place. So, kids seem to think more like "Hey, that wasn't so bad, I can handle time out". So, they go back and do the same things over and over. Then, they get bolder, and do worse things, get a little bit more time out ("which really ain't so bad"), and gradually work up to stealing daddy's gun and blowing their schoolmates away because a teacher made them mad. Or maybe killing their parents because they could not drive the family car, or some other minor disciplinary measure, because now they are teenagers and too old for time out. So, parents wring their hand, and wonder "where did I go wrong?", or "I don't understand, I raised him/her better than that." But, did they? They were intimidated by their own children because they were under the threat that CPS would be called if the parent laid a finger on the child. This scenario, of course, does not apply to all parents. Some grew up with spankings and "corporal" punishment, because their parents refused to be intimidated and told their children that if they wanted to call CPS, the parent would hand the phone to the child. Very few would actually make the call, because they were raised to love and respect their parents more as we were as children. When I was a child, one thing you DID NOT do, is talk back to your parents. You might be swallowing a couple of teeth if you did. But, today, many kids talk back to their parents and call them terrible, vulgar names, and some even resort to violence or "spanking, if you will" to the parents that raised and loved them as best they knew how. Thirty or forty years ago, there was no such thing as "parental abuse", but now is a common occurance, just like child abuse. There have always been abusive parents and there probably always will be. But, years ago, the abusive parents were truly sick individuals. Today, it is common news for a man or woman to kill their baby because it would not stop crying. Or, maybe the mother had a new boyfriend that did not like kids. She certainly cannot get rid of the boyfriend, so she must get rid of the kids. She can't give them to childless couples who would dearly love to have the kids, she has to kill them and then get on national news begging the kidnappers to bring her children home safely. I guess I just do not understand a society that allows this sort of thing to happen. When a child abuser/killer is caught and put into prison, they are put into protective custody away from the other inmates because it is well known that someone that hurts a child is the worst sort of criminal in the prisons and will be severely hurt or killed by other inmates and that is cruel and unusual punishment. Baloney!!! I lost a seven year old granddaughter to a to a pedophile that always wanted to have sex with a little girl. He has been "punished" by sitting on death row for several years knowing that death awaits him......someday. But, at least to my way of thinking, true justice would have been to put him in general population in prison and let him experience the same fear and pain of rape, that my granddaughter felt before he strangled the life from her. But, that can't be done because it is cruel to put a man through something like that. Was it not cruel what he did to a seven year old child? And that does not just apply to him. It applies to all pedophiles that prey on little children, or any other murderer that maims and tortures before finally killing their victim. He should be allowed to be treated the same way he treated his victim. Nope, he has to be treated humanely and kept in a prison where he is protected and has more rights than his victims and/or their family. Something is bad wrong in our country today. Since 9-11, many Americans have started flying the flag and proclaiming how patriotic they are. But, many many of these same flag waving Americans need to research the rules to flying the most beautiful flag in the world. Within the last few months, anything and everything, from clothes to shoes to chairs and more are fashioned using the red and while stripes and blue field with white stars. The flag is not to be worn or sat on, it is to be preserved and honored. Many people have the flag on their homes and/or cars. And that is where they stay! All day in the sun or the rain, all night when the flag should not be flown unless illuminated by a spot light. Some flags you see are so faded that the stripes are pink and gray and the blue field is pale, baby blue. Or, the flags are so ragged that it is a shame to fly them. But, fly they do. I have my flag and I display it proudly, but it is taken inside at sundown or when it rains. I am proud of my flag and I will not allow it to stay out in the rain, or at night. I do not know all the rules that govern flying the flag, but I do know that it does not stay out in the rain, or at night (unless illuminated with a spotlight) and it does not touch the ground. I just wish all these flag waving Americans would fly their flag with pride and respect rather than to show everyone else how patriotic they are. I am an American and I am very proud to be American. I am also a Christian and I am very proud to be able to worship God. God is my guide and my salvation. I just hope now that others that are proud American Christians will help try to put our great nation back together again. God Bless America! D. DeWitt July 16, 2002
IT'S HARD FOR PARENTS TO DO ANYTHING ABOUT THESE PROBLEMS, WITHOUT HELP FROM THE SCHOOL. IT WAS HARD FOR MY CHILDREN, I ASKED THEM HOW THEY STAYED AWAY FROM DRUGS, MY SON SAID HE JUST DIDN'T HAND AROUND THOSE KIDS, UNFORTUNATLEY MY DAUGHTER GOT INTO DRUGS, WITH HELP FROM PARENTS. AWFUL! SHE'S 25 NOW AND LOST HER KIDS BEEN CLEAN FOR 6 MONTHS. SCHOOL HAS ALOT OF AFFECT ON THE KIDS. BE PROUD OF YOUR GRANDSON, HE WANTS AN EDUCATION AND HE WILL GET ONE. IT'S BAD HE HAS TO DO IT THIS WAY, BUT ATLEAST HE KNOWS WHAT HE WANTS.HE'S GOING AORUND THE PROBLEM. THERE ISN'T MUCH YOU CAN DO! GOD BE WITH YOU AND YOUR FAMILY GIVE YOUR GRANDSON A GOLD METAL, HE DESERVES IT. IN ARIZONA
I know how you feel my grandson goes through the same thing and the principal of the school doesn`t want bothered with this kid fighting. He says he has to many other things that are more important. If my grandson fights back he gets into trouble for fighting. The principal says the kids need to learn to get along. A child can only take so much abuse. What happens when some one gets hurt really bad is he still going to say "the kids need to learn to get along".
I think it's a sad shame that the head master thinks he is too busy to listen or help these boys...Maybe when someone brings a gun to school,and use it he will sit up and take notice,but then again it may be too late then cause it may be one of the frustrated "GOOD" boys who does it and he may be one of the targets ...Wake up and teach our kids better..WJ Australia
I have no tolerance for the kind of behavior stated here. Teenagers are at a critical point in their life and peer pressure is one of the worst things they face. Administrators and others in responsible places in our schools need to get their heads out of the sand and not sit idlly by when they hear comments of this sort. If school officials don't think they can handle it they should notify the proper authorities and have them brought in. To do nothing is being irresponsible.
Every chid should be able to report anything they see and hear. Then the situation should be taken care of right then. This must be stopped. Maybe we should bring the paddle back.
I will pray for these young men (and probably young women, too) who have to tolerate such behaviour from other students. They are to be admired for their stand in life and not 'joining in' just to be part of the crowd. Later in life they can hold their heads up; wonder what the other students will be doing about that time? Thank you from another Grandmother. Patsy
WOW this makes my blood boil!! We have lost our moral grounding. I pulled my kids out of the sewer pipes called public schools! I home school and they are far advanced over regular kids. One is in college and the other is headed that way. THANK-YOU HOLLOYWOOD for destroying any moral fiber by putting on nude bodies having pre martial sex and group sex! The almighty dollar is all those types are after they glorify gangs, rape, smoking, drugs etc.....We property tax payers are funding public education come on people wake up pull your kids give them no more funding until they clean up the system! The only thing schools listen to is NO MORE MONEY!! ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!!! Do not leave your precious children in any PUBLIC SEWER PIPE....they will be lucky to survive!
Kids today are left to raise themselves..thus not being taught respect..not only for themselves nor for others. They see adults only show anger and prejudice ... this is their way of life. They reach out for attention any way that they can and for the most part it is to hurt and injure others. Until parents become parents how can we expect our kids to be any more than what we teach them?
Dear Concerned Grandma, I am thinking how I would feel if this were happening to one of my grandchildren. Its not a very nice thing to think about. Actually, its very frightening. Well, I have to tell you, I recently seen some disturbed children and their parents, which "bullying" was the subject on a recent "Dr. Phil" show. For those who are interested, if you go to DrPhil.com, you could probably inquire into a possible solution that Dr. Phil presented. There are two different forms available to print out from Dr. Phil's site. These forms are: "Anti-Bullying Pledge-Students", which there are 11 actions that students agree to follow, by signing said pledge. Most students would prefer a safe, enjoyable atmosphere, and would like to help make it that way. The other form is: "Anti-Bullying Pledge-Faculty", which there are 13 actions that the faculty agrees to follow, by signing this pledge. The idea is getting the students, parents, faculty working in unison to make school a great place to be, and I feel with them all working together, it would be very rewarding for all. There is also a "pledge" for parents. Hope this will be helpful, and you have the opportunity to look into it. When I watched it, I was very upset watching the parents and students who were involved, as they were subjected to some awful things happening to them. As a parent, I know that whatever happens to your child happens to you also. Good luck in whatever you decide, but I feel anything is worth trying if it will help all involved. Sincerely, Another concerned Grandma
We may need to start putting police officers in the schools. Most students are there to study and learn how to function in the working adult world. None need to be bullied and beat-up by other students, in our schools. With the above stated case from the grandmother, It makes one realize that maybe the child that carried a gun to school, was not the bad guy, but will have to live with their actions or non-actions, the rest of their lives. If a secretary was overheard to say that she knew it was going to happen, then she should be fired, and that schools managment should be checked into. If the principle and teachers are afraid of the students and their parents, they need to get out of the system. If all students are treated equal, no 'pets', I don't think the schools would be having the problems that they have. A bully cannot be allowed to get by with one thing. When you are around people, yoou learn to know them. Students pull jokes on each other, and thats part of the growing ip process. But it isn't cruel jokes.
thank God for concerned grandmas. I am one and i would be concerned too. Just keep praying and ask God to keep his hand on him and give him all the love he needs. It is good to hear that there is still people that care. God bless you .
It's an easy answer no one wants to talk about or know about or even think about. For years we have all had a decent life. Now with a little change one year and onto the next years, we are seeing the devil at work. He is taking over his clan of people who want to do his Evil deeds. And it seems to be working for him. If the families would bring 'Jesus' into their homes and give their children precious time with them. There truly would not be as much Evil, for the devil would be losing and have to try to come back another time to try to gather his clan of Evil ones. 'God' made this earth, he gave us everyting we needed here. It's a beautiful place. Sit and look at it today...the grass, trees, plants, flowers, ants, worms, squirrls, dogs, cats. The beautiful sky, sun, moon, stars, planets. The animals, tigers, bears, deer, horses, oh my so many. Parents, don't let the devil win over your child. Listen to their heart-break. They are 'God's' children, don't let the devil take over their soul. Show them 'Love', that's all they need everyday. And invite 'Jesus' back into your homes forever. Love, daughter, wife, Mom, Grandmother. 'God' Bless You All.
Bullying has been going on in school age, as well as younger children as far back as I know of. As we live in a world and state where direct contact with our children, be it bullies or others, does not allow the adults in our public arena who are not their parents - to intervene - what are the "victims" to do? I had a son who had a few incidents of this type done to him over the years. My husband told him that to confront the person(s) rather than let them continue was the only thing to do. My son while in high school had another student who would quietly (so no adults could hear, but his friends could, make snide remarks to him. Finally, our son stood up to this boy away from school area and confronted the lad. It did lead to their having a fist fight (the bully getting the worst end) and from that day forward our son had no problems from him. What bothers me is when there are groups of kids picking on a more timid or quiet person and ganging up on them. I do the same result might occur once the bullies realize they have someone who will confront them. Our son was a Marine after high school and there learned discipline (which he already had known) and has grown into a strong, but loving Son, Husband and Father. I am so proud of him for standing up for himself years ago.
I agree with you, things in the school system have gotten out of hand. Since they have taken God out of the schools, things have gone down hill. All we can do is pray that the "christian" students can stand up for what they believe and make a difference. My children are still in public school, and at our school, we have 0 tolerance of bullying. It still happens, because many days my son comes home and tells me someone said something mean to him. But if a teacher hears it, the children are dealt with. As parents we need to get together to pray for our schools, that the Lord will put a hedge of protection around them. Recently, I started a "Mothers Who Care" group at our school. We are a group of mothers who get together once a week, in a home and spend an hour in prayer for the staff and students of our schools. We also pray the other schools in our area. I live in Canada and things are no different than they are in the States. My prayer is that every school in the world will have a "Parents Who Care Group", so our school will be covered with prayer. Thank you for standing up for what you believe. May the Lord richly bless you and your family. Christine Hartwick Welland, Ontario Canada
I am thankful you are opening this subject. Have just sent it to a friend who has experienced the same thing, and is now homeschooling her grandson. Why can't school officials be strong leaders in doing what is right in protection and caring for the students? Another concerned grandmother.
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this is terrible but it lives on in many schools and no one will do anything or help anyone. it's crazy that it happens at all. what can we do and where do we go for help. yes they say this won't happen but the threat is still out there. the bullies still push and it's hard on most kids. it leaves a bad taste in my mouth. my olderst daughter had problems like that to her hand was shut in a locker and she was called gay and treated badly but nothing was done and i went to the school about it than a teacher said my child would become p.g before she got out of school. well she was wrong . my daughter is now 30 and in college and doing well. and no thanks to her high school or that either when she had a hard time . her problem started in jr high and followed her into high school. her 3 brother never had that happen to them. but none of them had all the same teachers has her or the same students either. so it is still happening. my younger daughter has trouble now she's 11 and it's hard for her . it started in kindgren and is still happen . she can't stand the stuff. but we deal with it has the principal is terrible and he and i go around alot. i also hate having to see the the people who do the attendent to . that has happen to me alot has she has been sick and has doctors notes. even when she was out 11 days in one card marking has we had a house fire. no one at that school help and neither did my neibors. we had the state on our back to. my one son was in high school at the time and they threaten to take my two children my high schooler and his little sis who was 8 at the time has my neibors told them we were living in our house after the fire which wasn't true. so the state came out to our hotel where our ins. co had us stay. it was terrible but they couldn't take them they found out it was a lie and that both children were getting good grades even tho we had the fire. so it's not just the schools it everywhere and it's worst for all envloved. this is my story and i have 5 children.
Personally the teachers now days are into this job of teaching our young ones ,strickly for the money I feel they don't care about what goes on with our children. Teachers get more time off work than any other job I know and now they have to have teachers helpers in all their class rooms, Schools should be teaching ththe three basics instead of teaching them how to party and socialize. We need some good christian teachers in our schools and the day they took prayer out of schools the devil has had his way with most of our children. PUT PRAYER BACK IN OUR SCHOOLS.
I also am a concerned Grandma. This kind of thing has been going on for many years.My son was "different" also.He was not into sports so the Teachers had no time to help him,he loved to work in shop but they didn't want him there since his other grades were not "up to par" . The Biology teacher decided he would quit school in the 10th grade .I said no he won't -he loves school & goes even when he's sick. Well thet teacher failed him 3 yrs in a row.I feel like he talked other teachers into failing him also in his senior year. The principal called & said he "needed to quit school & go join the army & become a man" he also said Jim wasn't a discipline problem so he couldn't expell him. So after 3 days of being met at the door & told he didn't belong there he finannly came home & stayed. After a year of wondering around he did join the army & when he was at Ft Carson he attended a regular High School & passed Biology in 3 months with a B- so he has a real Diploma. If Teacher could be like my 2nd husband was more children might grow up to be better citizens. FBL, Florence ,Co
I learned early on that the only way to stop this kind of attitude in your children's school is to become involved. Parents cannot afford to assume that their children are safe, and nutured at school. Indeed, I was astonished at how little sense and compassion some of my sons teachers possessed! If there is violence, bullying, or just an uncaring attitude at the school the parents, and/or grandparents must take action. Talk to the principal, the teachers and guidance couselors. Talk to your children and their friends. Find out what is happening at the school on a day to day basis, and LISTEN to what they tell you. If conveying your concerns to the school faculty isn't enough, call the Superintendent, or a school board member. Attend the next PTA meeting and bring up the problems. Write a letter to the editor of your local newspsper and make an issue of it. This is too important to ignore! Find other other parents with the same concerss and band together. Make your voices heard and do not let up. Do some research and find out what other schools are doing to address these issues and suggest something similiar for your school. While it has always been difficult getting your chldren through school with their attitudes right and their self confidence intact, these days,it can mean their life.
My 13 year old son is going through the samething now. This is his first year in a pulic school but this also goes on in private christian schools also. He has been picked on so much this year this nine weeks his grades have fallen to F's and C's he has just given up. It is not fair that kids should have to put up with this and it was around when I was in school. I was picked on also so was my husband. Some of the other kids especially the boys, are just horrible. They have thrown hard candy at him, called him gay and so forth. He has gotten in trouble when the others have not. And that is just not right. If we can make it through the next 4 weeks school will be out and hope next year will be better.
I to was bullied in school, I think that if the adminastration knows what is going on and who is doing it something should be done.In my school days teachers were not allowed to call students dumb..A friend of mine told me a teacher called her son dumb and I ask how come this is allowed to happen studies have showen that if a child is called dumb or stupid that they will not strive to do better and will have a low selfesteem..If I had a child that was called dumb or stupid by a teacher that teacher would be regreting it by the time I got done with phone calls to the administration and the newspapers calling for imediate dismissal of the teacher. The letter did not come out and say it but did hint at the fact that teachers were also causeing grief for these students who choose to live a clean life and study hard.. I am here to tell u that if my son was treated like that at school and any teacher or administration personell knew about it and or was in on it I would be hiring a lawyer and causeing all kinds of hell for them
Anyone who has children or grand children in our public school today has cause for concern. The only answer I have come up with is to pray for the Lord to put a divine covering over my grand children and to keep them safe. God is still in control and we must continue to pray for the safety and guidance of our loved ones, school admistrators and teachers. I know that God works all things out for the good of those who love him. V. in Nebraska
I am saddened by what those young men had to go through, especially in this day. Haven't we learned anything from the school shootings. Teachers and administrators need to be more on top of things. From my point of view, if something happened in this school I would make sure that every faculity member, including the administration were fired! Schools don't need faculity members who don't care enought to protect ALL students from harrassment.
My dear friend, Even though I am 58 yrs old, This went on back when I was in school also. My childen went though the same thing when they was in school. The devil is hard at work everywhere. My kids made it though with the grace of God. Prayer is the only weapon you have to fight the devil trying to destioy our children today in schools and outside this wicked word we are living in. God's power is above all other and with the up bringing of Christ in there lives they also will get though it all. There is no other love are protection then the love of our heavenly Father. I have you and all these kids in my prayers. From a Grandmother of eight and three grown Children God Bless
WE NEED GOD BACK IN SCHOOLS,THEY TOOK GOD OUT AND THAT GAVE SATAN FULL CONTROL,IT'S A SHAME WHAT OUR CHILDREN GO THEW GOING TO SCHOOL,WE ARE NOT GIVING THEM THE LOVE AND CARE THEY NEED,WE AS A NATION NEED TO STAND UP FOR OUR CHILDREN!MY DAUGTHER WENT THEW THIS,SHE IS NOW 35 YEARS AND NOW HER DAUGTHER IS GOING THEW THIS,AND SHE IS ONLY 11 YEARS,AS A MATTER OF FACT SHES SEEING A DR.TODAY HOPEFULLY SHE WILL OPEN UP AND TALK ABOUT IT.WE NEED TO PRAY,PRAY,THE BULLIES NEED HELP THEY ARE UNHAPPY ALSO,AND DON'T KNOW WHAT THEY ARE MISSING IN THERE LIFE: GOD IS THE ANSWER THE ONLY ANSWER! GOD BLESS